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Well, for what it's worth on this semantic game, I think there is a difference because of one issue no one has brought up - boundaries.

I have "hidden" debt from my wife from my business at one time. I have a line of credit and there was a point where there was a severe downturn and my balance went from $16,000 all the way up to $30,000. . .it's been paid down to $7900 and recently has gone up a tad to $10,000. I actually am planning to retire it here shortly.

Anyway, she was upset when this happened but I saw it as my business (which was actually wrong - it was our business) and I knew she would have gone nuts at the thought of tapping into my line.

So. . .it's a boundary dispute.

I came to the conclusion she had to let me out on my little leash a little and I did have to view our busines as "ours" and not "mine." That's the compromise - I am trying to run a business and Jim's wife is trying to "live her life."

Anyway. . .what's the boundary with sex?

Well, it's usually pretty clear - you don't fool around.

Unless you have some "understanding" like some couples do in which case they have sexual relations with other people.

So. . .one domain has boundaries (sex) - the other domain has less defined boundaries (money).

Jim's wife could just be disputing her "boundary."

This endeth Scanner's Psychobabble Lecture

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Well, for what it's worth on this semantic game, I think there is a difference because of one issue no one has brought up - boundaries.

I have "hidden" debt from my wife from my business at one time. I have a line of credit and there was a point where there was a severe downturn and my balance went from $16,000 all the way up to $30,000. . .it's been paid down to $7900 and recently has gone up a tad to $10,000. I actually am planning to retire it here shortly.

Anyway, she was upset when this happened but I saw it as my business (which was actually wrong - it was our business) and I knew she would have gone nuts at the thought of tapping into my line.

So. . .it's a boundary dispute.

I came to the conclusion she had to let me out on my little leash a little and I did have to view our busines as "ours" and not "mine." That's the compromise - I am trying to run a business and Jim's wife is trying to "live her life."

Anyway. . .what's the boundary with sex?

Well, it's usually pretty clear - you don't fool around.

Unless you have some "understanding" like some couples do in which case they have sexual relations with other people.

So. . .one domain has boundaries (sex) - the other domain has less defined boundaries (money).

Jim's wife could just be disputing her "boundary."

This endeth Scanner's Psychobabble Lecture

I've never hidden my finances from my wife. Her not knowing my business finances is by her choice. I like many believe that finances are a co op.

One person, knowingly hiding debt(changing addresses for CC bills) is deception and betrayal, period. I would think there would be a boundary for purposely hiding debt.