Hi all, new member here. I have a question for you all. I have been debating this in my mind and I don't know if I am being resonable or paranoid. Here is the deal:
I have been dating my girlfriend for about two years now. I love her very much and want to ask her to marry me. I very much trust her but the little voice in back of my head keeps reminding me about the divorce rate in America. Now, I know nothing can be less romantic than asking your partner to sign a prenup, but I am thinking that given my situation, one IS neccessary.
I want to disclose the following because I want you to understand my financial position so you can best answer my question: I am 31 years old and have saved $450,000. I did not invest in the stock market but rather CDs and online savings accounts. The money I have saved is a simply a result of a very frugal lifesyle (living below my means) and making an honest commitment to saving. I have sacrificed like crazy to save this money, saving 80% of my income for the last 7 years...that is why I am protective of it. I also have a house with a mortgage that is about 5 years from payoff.
Additionally, I earn 3 times what my Girlfriend earns. While I can't say she is a heavy spender, I can't really classify her as a saver either. She is 26 and has saved less than $30,000. She is not a home owner or paying on a mortgage. Having said this, she has never once given me the impression that she is a gold digger or a big spender. However, like I said, I am worried simply based on the divorce rate in this country. To make mstters worse, my brother is now going though a nasty divorse with his soon to be ex wife. He told me to make sure and get a prenup. Had he had one, it would have saved him a whole lot of headaches.
Your thoughts? Pre-nup or just take the plunge? I am just a nervous guy trying to protect my assets. Am I being a jerk here or being unreasonable? I don't think so...
Thanks everyone.
I have been dating my girlfriend for about two years now. I love her very much and want to ask her to marry me. I very much trust her but the little voice in back of my head keeps reminding me about the divorce rate in America. Now, I know nothing can be less romantic than asking your partner to sign a prenup, but I am thinking that given my situation, one IS neccessary.
I want to disclose the following because I want you to understand my financial position so you can best answer my question: I am 31 years old and have saved $450,000. I did not invest in the stock market but rather CDs and online savings accounts. The money I have saved is a simply a result of a very frugal lifesyle (living below my means) and making an honest commitment to saving. I have sacrificed like crazy to save this money, saving 80% of my income for the last 7 years...that is why I am protective of it. I also have a house with a mortgage that is about 5 years from payoff.
Additionally, I earn 3 times what my Girlfriend earns. While I can't say she is a heavy spender, I can't really classify her as a saver either. She is 26 and has saved less than $30,000. She is not a home owner or paying on a mortgage. Having said this, she has never once given me the impression that she is a gold digger or a big spender. However, like I said, I am worried simply based on the divorce rate in this country. To make mstters worse, my brother is now going though a nasty divorse with his soon to be ex wife. He told me to make sure and get a prenup. Had he had one, it would have saved him a whole lot of headaches.
Your thoughts? Pre-nup or just take the plunge? I am just a nervous guy trying to protect my assets. Am I being a jerk here or being unreasonable? I don't think so...
Thanks everyone.
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