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I like buying new clothes, but if i do buy them, it's not generally for the rich and famous look. i go casual (but neat), even at the office. People who dress like they have money are usually those with new $$, as opposed to old, because old $$ doesn't like to call attention to itself (see The Millionnaire Next Door).
I read millionaire next door, it was good!! My husband is a builder and does the work himself, so his work clothes are pretty bad. We went into the bank after a closing to open an account that was paying 4.14 % if you had a minimum of $50,000.
When I told her that I wanted the 4.14 % account, she told me she was sorry, but they could not open it with less than $50,000.
I guess we looked like two bums. When I gave her a check for $100,000, she was much much nicer. We thought it was so funny!!
I used to...now not so much...what I did was always look for the best quality of clothes possible (still do) at the lowest possible price (still do), mostly keeping a very classic line (so I still get compliments on a dress that's 8 years old!!)...and I used to add one or two "trendy" items, so that my wardrobe would seem updated - I no longer have the money to splurge on items that will be out of fashion in six months...(or should I say: I no longer delude myself into thinking that I have enough money??)
I probably do in some ways, because my husband works for a high-end clothing company, and we get a lot of stuff for next to nothing. So if someone knows the brand and sees how much of it we wear, they could jump to the wrong conclusion about how much money we actually spend on clothing. There's no way I could ever afford the clothes I have now if I had to pay retail for them. Heck, I couldn't even afford them at wholesale.
I love parties, but I dread going because all the woman are dressed so fancy, with fancy clothes, hair and nails. i have never had my hair or nails done and don't really care!
I'd much rather wear my Wal-Mart jeans and shirts for pennies and just look presentable and hot...Working on the hot part though with diet and exercise. I've come to realize the fact that I'll never be one of those A&F guys and I could care less.
It seems more and more that image is more important than substance so dressing 'rich' can often get you some quite large advantages in life. Ditto for other 'status symbols' such as a nice motor car. Its quite a sad state of affairs but an increasingly common one I think.
I am in the process of remaking all my clothes since my daughter in law complained about how I dress. Seems my things were too worn out. Ok, maybe she was right some (most?) of my stuff is from 15 years ago. When I say make I mean it. I am sewing an outfit a month for the next year. I figure that will keep me going for another decade. I remember learning "wear it out or do without" a long time ago. When I was in the business world I dressed for the job I wanted, not the one I had. I'm old enough that I remember having to wear a dress and stockings to go "downtown" in fact I remember wearing white gloves (I admit I still have a pair). People unfortunately do judge you on what you wear. It is fun to shock them (the banker may learn from that) but if you deal with customers you have to wear what makes them more comfortable.
My husband will never wear a tie in his life. He finds them restricting and ridiculous. I hate dresses, skirts and anything frou-frou. We live our lives in jeans, t-shirts and usually mis-matched socks.
The only side-effect is that we get a lot of weird looks when we go buy something expensive. We usually don't get any service because salesmen think we're in the wrong place. We feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman sometimes... but whaddyagonnado? People are driven by money and don't realize that any old bum could have tons of it!
We once went to buy a brand-new refrigerator and stood in the appliance section for twenty minutes while salespeople ignored us in favor of better looking customers (who probably never bought anything). In the end we went up to a young girl working the cash register and told her exactly what we wanted, and she got a manager to set up the sale. Nobody got a commission on that one. It's a great fridge, too!
I'm a mom of four, and work as a teaching assistant in a preschool - I go for sturdy, washable, and 'doesn't show everything' sort of clothing. Jeans and sweaters (now) and tops (warmer weather.)
When I have the occasion to dress up, I usually am able to go classic casual, though I do have classic dressy clothes too. I don't wear them all that much anymore, so they are still in good shape and classic enough that they are still ok fashion-wise too. I admit that no one would mistake me as a fashion trendsetter!
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