How well do you get along with your siblings?

**riverwed070707** · 08-17-2015, 06:04 AM

Family or not, I don't spend my time with or trying to save relationships of people who don't respect me. I'd kill her with kindness when you have to be together for family functions and otherwise spend time cultivating the relationships you have that are worth keeping.

**disneysteve** · 08-17-2015, 06:12 AM

I had one brother who died of an overdose almost 30 years go.

My wife has 2 sisters. They have limited interaction. We get together maybe 2-3 times a year. She just doesn't have a whole lot in common with them and doesn't have much to talk about when we're all together. She also doesn't have a good relationship with her mother so we try and limit the family gatherings as much as possible.

**tiffany85** · 08-17-2015, 07:24 AM

Originally posted by riverwed070707 View Post

Family or not, I don't spend my time with or trying to save relationships of people who don't respect me. I'd kill her with kindness when you have to be together for family functions and otherwise spend time cultivating the relationships you have that are worth keeping.

I've started doing this over the past few months. Thanks for the reinforcement. I don't say anything mean, I just nod and play along until I can leave the room.

**LittleLamplight** · 12-29-2015, 09:05 AM

I have family I barely talk to and others I see all the time. It just depends. Some people just aren't worth dealing with even if they are family. I'd rather choose my family than be stuck with horrible people.

**ua_guy** · 01-04-2016, 11:32 AM

Originally posted by tiffany85 View Post

I have a brother and a sister. We're all still in our 20's. I get along with my brother pretty well. But my sister and I don't have anything in common. I feel... indifferent about her, I guess. She's boring to talk to and I'm sure she thinks I'm boring as well (based on how rapidly she changes my chosen subject of conversation). She doesn't seem to like me at all. She's always being snarky at basically every opportunity. We'll be eating dinner and she'll say something about how I'm too skinny. Or she'll make rude comments when my back in turned. One time I put my headphones on when we were riding in a car together just to see what bad crap she'd say about me. I wasn't listening to music so I could hear perfectly - yep she trashed talked me even then. It's all small, stupid stuff though. Nothing anyone else would care about.

This all started after she graduated college. She's an elementary school teacher with a leased car and loans. She used to always make fun of me for being 'cheap'. But now she just makes fun of me. Part of me think she's mad she doesn't have more money and is jealous of mine. IDK. I can't think of why else she has such a strong distaste for me. We don't even talk often enough to have any real arguments so I feel its just something she feels about me... nothing tangible, ya know?

Maybe I should just confront her. This is getting old. What should I do? How do you deal with siblings you feel indifferent about? Halp.

I wouldn't suggest "confronting" her, even though that's probably how it's going to come off.

Talk about it. Affirm that you love her as your sister, stay away from accusations, but try to get to the root cause of whatever the cause of her negativity is when she's around you.

Family is all we really have, so it's important to try to keep good relationships.

I have an older sister, we are not biologically related (she's adopted, like me) so we are not only apart in age, but we are very different people and bear no resemblance to each other.

We enjoy each other's company but we are not really "close". We were much closer when we were younger, but after we both moved out of our parents' house, we've mostly gone our separate ways, plus she has kids and I don't, so one more thing I don't have in common with her.

But we are cordial, we call each other on holidays, when we don't know what to talk about, we can always share good memories of the past, growing up.

If you can get to a point of peace and understanding, I'd encourage you to do so with your own sister!

**Reece102** · 01-14-2016, 05:42 AM

I don't get on too well. Having said that, sometimes we do excellently. Though most the time it really isnt

**Fishindude77** · 01-14-2016, 06:57 AM

I am blessed in this area. There are six of us siblings and we all get along pretty well. Amazing that none of us have went to jail and that we are all alive and pretty healthy. Get along pretty good with the wife's siblings too.

Never understood family "in fighting".

How well do you get along with your siblings?