Bonuses and Raises

[Fishindude77]

What was hateful? For years the therapy I said about was a medical procedure. Heck it may still be in use. Mental health issues are a real thing and shouldn't be looked down upon.

Nothing was hateful, the forum has gotten political.
You can go quite far left and get away with remarks but a little to the right and you get attacked or berated.

[disneysteve]

Nothing was hateful, the forum has gotten political.

There was nothing political at all. They suggested that people should be subjected to shock therapy. Sorry if you don’t find that inappropriate.

[ua_guy]

Well this derailed. Sorry, OP.

[mumof2]

I donated my bonus to an organization that provides care for transgender youth. I've been increasing my "philanthropy" as of late, because I can. Marginalized and underserved children felt like a more-than-worthy cause.

love this my granddaughter (was grandson) is transgender and lives over there and said it is scary as hell right now for her and her partener/friends/community

[jenn_jenn]

We always set aside bonuses. I don't think it's fair to say we "always" save bonuses. It's more setting aside for later, but willing to spend as money piles up.

This is us. Most of our bonuses get invested. We have a fully funded emergency fund so we’re not looking to add cash savings and max out retirement that’s not to say that we don’t spend a portion of bonus money redown the line on bigger purchases (e.g., paying cash for cars, home renovations, etc.).

I very rarely have a desire to spend any of my bonus. My husband is definitely more of a spender than me though and he does usually take a portion and buys himself something nice. He works incredibly hard and it usually is a nominal amount comparatively so I don’t stress about it.

ETA: I forgot to answer about raises. Small raises that are really just cost of living adjustments just get rolled into it our normal spending. I don’t think we have a normal for large raises because that happens much less frequently.

[ua_guy]

As for raises, we are the same way. Gets baked into any growing expenses/normal spending, and when raises outpace those, the rest just gets saved.

It wasn't always that way, though. For a lot of years, raises went to goals of getting closer to maxing out retirement contributions, creating a proper emergency fund, making bigger debt payments, etc. We are "here" because we did the work "there", which gets back to one of the reasons I originally joined this site!

[Atretes1]

I am maxed out in pay and dont generally get bonuses. I do have a good potential of overtime which I am going to drastically slow down this year. My base pay is right at 6 figures and I want to try and max out my 457, ROTH and HSA for the next 7.5 years. I'll also want to try and max the catch up contributions when I get there at 50. Thats nearly 30 to 40% of my base income so we will see...LOL

[myrdale]

What sort of care would a transgender youth get?

You might be interested in looking into foundations that provide reparative therapy to help youth. I am sure there are many ministries out there that offer support.

Nothing political at all. Just people donating putting their money towards movements that support their religious and moral views.

[disneysteve]

Nothing political at all. Just people donating putting their money towards movements that support their religious and moral views.

And please keep your religious views out of other people’s medical care.

Let’s stick to discussing finances and not religion please.

[myrdale]

And please keep your religious views out of other people’s medical care.

EasyMoney00 asked about care for transgender youth and I made a suggestion of support programs that they could seek out he might be interested in supporting. I'd love to know where in my comment I actually discussed religion outside of the scope of a place to put my money to support people who are aligned with my personal morals.

Maybe you don't tithe but for some people the amount they give to religious foundations is a significant amount of their budget, and supporting their church is a major part of their financial life.

Many people of different persuasions seek out guidance and help from these organizations. The simple fact that not everybody wants to wave the same flag as you, yet you immediately attack with "keep your religious views out of other people's medical care" shows Fishingdude77 comment is spot on. Anyone who is even the slightest bit right leaning is attacked and berated.

[disneysteve]

Sorry if my comment was taken wrong. I fully support donating to religious causes. My wife and I do it regularly.

My comment about medical care was regarding the transgender issue, which is what EasyMoney00 had asked about. If your suggestion was about organizations that support transgender medical care, I apologize. I misunderstood your intent.

[myrdale]

I am talking about foundations, ministries, and therapies for people who want to de-transition, or live a "cist-gender-hetero-normative" life.

If transgender youth want to seek out these services rather than being shoehorned into a path which leads to a 50% chance of suicide then they should be able to.

[ua_guy]

I am talking about foundations, ministries, and therapies for people who want to de-transition, or live a "cist-gender-hetero-normative" life.

If transgender youth want to seek out these services rather than being shoehorned into a path which leads to a 50% chance of suicide then they should be able to.

Thanks to the cisgender heterosexuals, they keep making trans babies, aka flowers of humanity.

Have you ever considered the 50% chance of a transgender person ending their life by suicide is influenced by close-minded, judgmental people?

[myrdale]

Have you ever considered the 50% chance of a transgender person ending their life by suicide is influenced by close-minded, judgmental people?

Our society is in the middle of running an experiment that will not yield the results for 50 years or longer.

What was once limited to makeup, cloths and a hair cut which could be changed in moments is now irreversible hormones and surgery at younger and younger ages.

To point the finger of blame at "close-minded, judgmental people" completely ignores potential underlying mental health conditions at the peril of the individual at hand.

Suicide is only the tip of the iceberg. Problematic drinking, drug use, self harm are significant as well.

Claiming there are trans babies is the sort of radicalization that is doing far more harm than good.

The singular case that I know of first hand was a guy in his 60's who over about 5 years went from Ron to Ronda, while still being married to his wife. It was a very slow process over years accompanied by counseling along the way.

[ua_guy]

Our society is in the middle of running an experiment that will not yield the results for 50 years or longer.

What was once limited to makeup, cloths and a hair cut which could be changed in moments is now irreversible hormones and surgery at younger and younger ages.

To point the finger of blame at "close-minded, judgmental people" completely ignores potential underlying mental health conditions at the peril of the individual at hand.

Suicide is only the tip of the iceberg. Problematic drinking, drug use, self harm are significant as well.

Claiming there are trans babies is the sort of radicalization that is doing far more harm than good.

The singular case that I know of first hand was a guy in his 60's who over about 5 years went from Ron to Ronda, while still being married to his wife. It was a very slow process over years accompanied by counseling along the way.

That's a pretty big leap going from your knowledge of "a single case" to knowing what's right for youth and young adults and calling this an "experiment". This is ultimately off topic for this particular thread, Your ignorance on the topic is seriously disheartening.