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Thank you everyone for the great advice. 
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check out lovingyou.com they have lots of good free and/or cheap ideas.
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Here is the direct link to the cheap dates page
Lovingyou.com: Romantic Ideas: Cheap Date IdeasComment
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Go to your library on the way home from work and SECRETLY check out that book 'RoMANtic'...read it in your car on your lunch hour and I'm sure you'll likely come up with some additional ways to connect w/wifey!Comment
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After you've done all the walks and ice cream cones and museums....
how about a date for a one hour massage. Send the kids out of the house. One week she's the recipient, the next week you're the recipient. (and I'm not at all implying that this has to lead to anything more than the massage).Comment
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One of my favorite times of the week is Sunday night, when DH and I do the NY Times crossword together. We usually do it at our bowling league, but on nights we don't have bowling, I just love to snuggle on the couch or in bed next to him while we do it.Comment
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Could you write her a love letter maybe once a month?Comment
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You don't have to be all flowers and jazz music and candlit dinners to be romantic. My husband and I have only been married 3 years and don't have kids yet so we do spend a lot of time together. Some of the things my husband does that I love are: holding my hand, opening doors for me INCLUDING the car door, putting his hand on my knee when he drives, complimenting me or saying he had a nice time with me, and saying he loves me out of the blue. Just window shopping together is nice but we also go on walks, bike rides, to museums, day trips, antiquing, go out to get ice cream, or just go on a ride. Admittedly we do more walks and bike rides since they are free.
My parents used to go on walks just them and while I felt left out I was glad they were spending time together. They also went outside on warm nights to sit and walk and have coffee or something.
Are you sure you can carve out Saturday afternoon without the kids feeling left out or will they be happy to be rid of you? lol, no offense
If you can't do Sat afternoons, what about Fri, Sat or Sun evenings? DH and I love to play board games together on weekend nights or just snuggle up and watch a movie.
I don't think your wife cares what you do, but that you pay some attention to her. Especially if it is not "Every Saturday from 1pm-3pm." Just doing little things here and there will really go a loooooong way!Comment
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I'm glad you mentioned these things. One thing that has always been constant in my mariage, though mostly initiated by DH, is the little things you mention, holding hands etc. Thanks for reminding me.Originally posted by KatieNK View PostYou don't have to be all flowers and jazz music and candlit dinners to be romantic. My husband and I have only been married 3 years and don't have kids yet so we do spend a lot of time together. Some of the things my husband does that I love are: holding my hand, opening doors for me INCLUDING the car door, putting his hand on my knee when he drives, complimenting me or saying he had a nice time with me, and saying he loves me out of the blue. Just window shopping together is nice but we also go on walks, bike rides, to museums, day trips, antiquing, go out to get ice cream, or just go on a ride. Admittedly we do more walks and bike rides since they are free.
My parents used to go on walks just them and while I felt left out I was glad they were spending time together. They also went outside on warm nights to sit and walk and have coffee or something.
Are you sure you can carve out Saturday afternoon without the kids feeling left out or will they be happy to be rid of you? lol, no offense
If you can't do Sat afternoons, what about Fri, Sat or Sun evenings? DH and I love to play board games together on weekend nights or just snuggle up and watch a movie.
I don't think your wife cares what you do, but that you pay some attention to her. Especially if it is not "Every Saturday from 1pm-3pm." Just doing little things here and there will really go a loooooong way!Comment
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DH and I grocery shop. We also cook a lot together. Or he cooks, I watch. But it's relaxing to sit and just talk over stuff. Also because we don't have kids, we sometimes stay in bed most or all of the day. Uh for relaxation purposes. And we eat in bed, and hide out from the world.Comment
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How big is your bath tub? Can the kids all find a friends' house to sleep at? Bubbles are relatively inexpensive. So are cheap little candles. Romantic, cheap and oh so relaxing. You never know where it may lead
I have a four year old, so he goes to bed early. We get our "alone" time then. I think your wife just wants a few hours a week where you guys can get back to base. It doesn't involve money at all. Because your kids are older, you just need to make that time a priority, even if you never leave the house.Comment
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There are a lot of sites devoted to cheap date ideas, just Google it.Comment
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Your wife wants to spend time with you; she wants a companion and a friend and someone she can feel a sense of intimacy with. Please do not approach your upcoming dates with an attitude of obligation or act like spending time with her is a chore you have to complete to shut her up. As it has already been pointed out to you, this doesn't require a lot of money or any of all. If you approach the time you spend with her with eagerness and act as though you can't wait to be alone with her because she is someone you love to be around then that will go a long way. Have fun.Comment
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where do you live?
visit a different local park each weekend.
if rainy, have an alternate plan to visit an indoor historical thingComment
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