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Never ever heard that the honeymoon was the groom's family expenses and I have lived all over the place. If a couple is getting married and can't afford a honeymoon themselves, they should ask themselves a question: can we really afford to get married at this point in time? Can we put it off till later? What can we do that is cheap and fun?
When hubby and I got married, we did it on the cheap with cash. Hubby is very creative and between the two of us it was very pretty and memorable for us. For our "honeymoon" we drove 3 blocks from our church to my house and he got to spend the night instead of going home. One of our big activities was doing a cook all day and eat for a month days. How little we realized how much we would need that pre-prepped food! I had hotel points, enough for a room for a night and so went to the hotel, used the Jacuzzi, and when time to go to bed, hated the bed, got up and left in the middle of the night to go back to sleep on our comfy bed. The weeks after the wedding I got really sick and the doctor over the next three weeks couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. I left work one day at 11AM in so much pain I couldn't stand it and never went back again. This is where all that prepped food came in handy as I could barely stand up to do anything. It took months and a complete change of doctors before we figured out what was wrong with me and I was already passed the point of no return to work with severe RA.
Things we did to keep costs down, bought my engagement ring at a jewelry estate sale. We weren't engaged at the time and it was my dream ring so I would have bought it anyhow. I found his ring, exactly like the $500 one in a jewelry store catalog, for $125 at another jewelry estate sale and in his size (so was mine). Seeing his ring 16 years later, it was obvious that the ring hadn't been worn long at all when I bought it for him. Instead of a lot of flowers up front we had lots of different sized white candles. The wedding was on Valentine's day, so we would have gone to the poor house, buying flowers that day. Simple cake and punch reception. My sister as maid of honor was wearing the dress I bought for my mother to wear when she married my stepdad. Hubby and my son wore tux's that we paid for.
My son went to his cousins wedding. Flew from PA to TX and back, stayed with my brother so that was one less expense. Gave a gift that he never got thanked for, no one made sure that he was in the family photos. It was a full blown affair that I'm sure her family could afford, but within I think 2 years they were divorced and she is remarried again already. That is where I wonder about the costs of these full blown spectacles that the couple doesn't last. Were they so caught up in the wedding that they forgot that the time of engagement was to get to know someone even better than before you became engaged? Sounds like wedding plans took precedence.
Weddings can turn into hostile affairs. My son's grandmother when her son and I were getting married, as the wedding was being planned, had the audacity to call the preacher at our church, and although at that point she had NEVER even spoken to my mom, told him that she didn't think my mom would provide enough food and what could she do. Cool guy. He told her to call my mom about it. LOL! So my mom told her what she could make or bring. But I dealt with that sort of attitude the entire time I was married to her baby. It didn't matter what kind of wedding reception that I wanted, she was going to push in to do things her way. One of the things she HAD to do at the wedding was to talk my new husband into go cutting the cake and eat one bite! He didn't want to (said he didn't like cake) and I couldn't convince him. I should have asked to have the marriage certificate ripped up then as things just kept going downhill as everything always had to be about him.
What would be interesting is a thread about the odd ball things that happen in your wedding. As we were coming back down the isle, his aunt got up and got right in front of me, literally, I had to stop walking as to not step on her! She walked out - perhaps she needed the bathroom! My SIL, because my brother was on duty in the middle east, had her hair died red ,white and blue and in an afro for the occasion. Looks like clown hair in the video. We had another guy that no one knew wandering around asking everyone "Where's the beer?" Woops, he came to the wrong wedding. When we were opening up presents and cards we found a crumpled up $5 bill in an envelope with no writing and we suspected it was from our beer drinking friend who was paying his part for the beer he never got!
Hubby knowing my first wedding was a shemozzle did all in his power to make this one so much better and it was.
When hubby and I got married, we did it on the cheap with cash. Hubby is very creative and between the two of us it was very pretty and memorable for us. For our "honeymoon" we drove 3 blocks from our church to my house and he got to spend the night instead of going home. One of our big activities was doing a cook all day and eat for a month days. How little we realized how much we would need that pre-prepped food! I had hotel points, enough for a room for a night and so went to the hotel, used the Jacuzzi, and when time to go to bed, hated the bed, got up and left in the middle of the night to go back to sleep on our comfy bed. The weeks after the wedding I got really sick and the doctor over the next three weeks couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. I left work one day at 11AM in so much pain I couldn't stand it and never went back again. This is where all that prepped food came in handy as I could barely stand up to do anything. It took months and a complete change of doctors before we figured out what was wrong with me and I was already passed the point of no return to work with severe RA.
Things we did to keep costs down, bought my engagement ring at a jewelry estate sale. We weren't engaged at the time and it was my dream ring so I would have bought it anyhow. I found his ring, exactly like the $500 one in a jewelry store catalog, for $125 at another jewelry estate sale and in his size (so was mine). Seeing his ring 16 years later, it was obvious that the ring hadn't been worn long at all when I bought it for him. Instead of a lot of flowers up front we had lots of different sized white candles. The wedding was on Valentine's day, so we would have gone to the poor house, buying flowers that day. Simple cake and punch reception. My sister as maid of honor was wearing the dress I bought for my mother to wear when she married my stepdad. Hubby and my son wore tux's that we paid for.
My son went to his cousins wedding. Flew from PA to TX and back, stayed with my brother so that was one less expense. Gave a gift that he never got thanked for, no one made sure that he was in the family photos. It was a full blown affair that I'm sure her family could afford, but within I think 2 years they were divorced and she is remarried again already. That is where I wonder about the costs of these full blown spectacles that the couple doesn't last. Were they so caught up in the wedding that they forgot that the time of engagement was to get to know someone even better than before you became engaged? Sounds like wedding plans took precedence.
Weddings can turn into hostile affairs. My son's grandmother when her son and I were getting married, as the wedding was being planned, had the audacity to call the preacher at our church, and although at that point she had NEVER even spoken to my mom, told him that she didn't think my mom would provide enough food and what could she do. Cool guy. He told her to call my mom about it. LOL! So my mom told her what she could make or bring. But I dealt with that sort of attitude the entire time I was married to her baby. It didn't matter what kind of wedding reception that I wanted, she was going to push in to do things her way. One of the things she HAD to do at the wedding was to talk my new husband into go cutting the cake and eat one bite! He didn't want to (said he didn't like cake) and I couldn't convince him. I should have asked to have the marriage certificate ripped up then as things just kept going downhill as everything always had to be about him.
What would be interesting is a thread about the odd ball things that happen in your wedding. As we were coming back down the isle, his aunt got up and got right in front of me, literally, I had to stop walking as to not step on her! She walked out - perhaps she needed the bathroom! My SIL, because my brother was on duty in the middle east, had her hair died red ,white and blue and in an afro for the occasion. Looks like clown hair in the video. We had another guy that no one knew wandering around asking everyone "Where's the beer?" Woops, he came to the wrong wedding. When we were opening up presents and cards we found a crumpled up $5 bill in an envelope with no writing and we suspected it was from our beer drinking friend who was paying his part for the beer he never got!
Hubby knowing my first wedding was a shemozzle did all in his power to make this one so much better and it was.
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