Just chatting with a friend. I know I have only lived in very liberal areas and with very insulated people. But I've friend elsewhere and even where I grew up is very red. What I find interesting is that so many people support "making" their way and less government interference and they say "oh the american dream." But as I've gotten older I don't think the american dream is really possible. What is see is that it's very "rigged". How so? I mean the gap between the haves and have nots appears to me to be growing. That's it's hard to get all the breaks to make it in the US. That moving up is harder, affording college and an "education" = better jobs is less likely now. And even getting scholarships or college seems to be geared to being born to parents who can help you work the system.
I know many on here are "self-made". But tell the truth? Can that happen now? Are all the breaks many of us got still available to people today? Or is it harder and less realistic? I ask because I see my neighbors and all the help they got from their parents. Help with wedding, help with home buying, college for their kids and themselves, vacations every where, cars, etc. All of that seems minimal but it's really not. Being able to afford a lifestyle that most people can't because they don't have to budget or save or plan for every big purchase.
I am happy to have done it myself. I am proud to have saved for my own kids college, but seeing all the help makes me more determined to be able to hand it down to my kids. To see people whose parents gave each of their kids $75k upon birth (my coworker did this for her new grandson last summer) into a 529. This is not counting the taxable account she set up for him too. And she always tells me about the DP for the condo her son got. I have neighbors who got a free house next door to their parents. They moved into the house she grew up in and her parents build a house next door.
Small things that okay are not millions, but significant amounts of money $75k that make it harder for people working to get by. It's very interesting that people don't realize all these things add up to a bigger gap.
The question between myself and another friend who grew up poor was when will society realize we are turning into the haves and have nots? That the 0.1% is controlling the rest of us? That we are scrambling up to never catch up?
I know many on here are "self-made". But tell the truth? Can that happen now? Are all the breaks many of us got still available to people today? Or is it harder and less realistic? I ask because I see my neighbors and all the help they got from their parents. Help with wedding, help with home buying, college for their kids and themselves, vacations every where, cars, etc. All of that seems minimal but it's really not. Being able to afford a lifestyle that most people can't because they don't have to budget or save or plan for every big purchase.
I am happy to have done it myself. I am proud to have saved for my own kids college, but seeing all the help makes me more determined to be able to hand it down to my kids. To see people whose parents gave each of their kids $75k upon birth (my coworker did this for her new grandson last summer) into a 529. This is not counting the taxable account she set up for him too. And she always tells me about the DP for the condo her son got. I have neighbors who got a free house next door to their parents. They moved into the house she grew up in and her parents build a house next door.
Small things that okay are not millions, but significant amounts of money $75k that make it harder for people working to get by. It's very interesting that people don't realize all these things add up to a bigger gap.
The question between myself and another friend who grew up poor was when will society realize we are turning into the haves and have nots? That the 0.1% is controlling the rest of us? That we are scrambling up to never catch up?
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