people that envy the rich

[Snodog]

You have to look at it from the other side, though. Being rich is such a burden!

All the women throwing themselves at you. The servants don't manage themselves you know!
All the decisions - take out the Mercedes or the Porsche tonite? It gives me a headache.

Must be nice!

Oh and I agree with everything Seeker said above.

[cypher1]

I'm gonna agree with trigger-words. Only investingnoob knows the whole story, but I can only imagine her simple statement is derived or interpreted as more of a comparison to himself indirectly. For example, when I dropped out of college years ago, my dad was always casually mentioning a cousin of mine or some friend's son who got his degree in blah, and got a great job doing blah blah. He never realized by making those statements, that it felt like no matter what I did, was never good enough for him. The original post sounds more of just venting. Insecure or not, but I would definitely feel annoyed if my g/f was constantly reminding me of how nice her girl friends have it in their lives. But then again, I wouldn't put myself in that situation in the first place by saying something like "It must be nice to find another person who will give you free room and board, pay for all your meals and bills, etc. Good luck on that one"

[tripods68]

This may may or not off topic.

I think Relationship is so "boring" if both think ALIKE and VALUE same things in life. I'm married by the way (7 years with 2 young kids), but the things I love about my wife is she isn't like me or thinks like me. We have common values when it comes to personal finances and raising our kids, but politically and ideologically we often disagree. But we value and respect each others opinion of how we think the world works and/or how we see it.

Just my two cents.

[universalremodeling]

Sorry if this comment of mine will offend you but I will say you have to think twice; to continue your relationship or stop it now. I think if your girlfriend will keep on saying that things to you, you will never be happy. Your girlfriend is a material girl...

[cschin4]

I don't envy. "Don't envy what others have unless you are willing to do what they did to get what they have".
And, there is always someone richer, thinner, prettier, younger, smarter and on and on. If you constantly compare yourself, you will come up short eventually. Maybe a mission trip overseas to some poor nation would open her eyes.

[Seeker]

I think Relationship is so "boring" if both think ALIKE and VALUE same things in life. I'm married by the way (7 years with 2 young kids), but the things I love about my wife is she isn't like me or thinks like me. We have common values when it comes to personal finances and raising our kids, but politically and ideologically we often disagree. But we value and respect each others opinion of how we think the world works and/or how we see it.

Yes, Tripods68, exactly.

Life is so much better when you just accept the different ideas and actions in each other and can freely talk with each other and not have to compete, or be someone you are not, or strive to change the other, or make the other into someone they are not. Live and let live.

Men and women DO THINK DIFFERENTLY. They behave differently. They are different! Accept it and move on.

OP needs to learn that he can only change himself. Discussion is for understanding and maybe rectifying feelings.... but there's a risk involved. A risk that the other will not agree. A risk that the other will not understand. Each person, even with another, is always a bit isolated; even in sharing.

Comfort with any SO is achieved when we accept the person for what he or she is entirely, all his or her flaws come with all the good parts too.

But all of the above assumes communication, sharing, understanding and accepting. It means that you are comfortable with yourself first, then you can be comfortable with another person that you learn to trust as much as yourself.

[Seeker]

I don't envy. "Don't envy what others have unless you are willing to do what they did to get what they have".
And, there is always someone richer, thinner, prettier, younger, smarter and on and on. If you constantly compare yourself, you will come up short eventually. Maybe a mission trip overseas to some poor nation would open her eyes.

Maybe his eyes need opening?

Who is the complainer here?

Who has not come back to answer the question:

Is it possible that she does not know what those four simple words mean to him? Is it possible that she is oblivious to his feelings when she says those words?

There's no "envy" -- not in a tv show. That's just entertainment.... not reality.

There may be "envy" with her 22 year old friend, but maybe he should talk with her about that too. Because that's probably not the kind of life she'd want to live.

Lottery, ok. Who does not like to dream the what if's?

And the last one is not her reality; probably part of his work reality. Most 22 year old folks do not know that many "married" couples that are their ages and are well off enough in order to not have the wife in that situation also working. These are probably the reality of older couples with different cultures & traditions. Part of his work environment that may make him uncomfortable, because she does work and earn money outside the home.

He has a renter, that maybe was a mistake because it's a friend, now out of work.

He works hard. Maybe he needs to relax a bit. Definitly if he does not talk with her about what he feels.