Looks like I might be going about this solo...

[LivingAlmostLarge]

Thanks Debbie, and I agree with jim. 75 is not old. And if the home is too much for him to handle alone, he should consider what his future holds as well.

If you meet someone in a whirlwind courtship and moved out, then what would he do?

Parents are happy kids grow up. By the way my dad is almost 80 and still working. He's not ready to kick the bucket yet, but he did ditch the house for a condo with my mom. He was sick and tired of a big home.

And steve just reiterated the point I made about it's not about the money. You can keep justifying that you can save $x, or $y, or $z the longer you stay.

You just need to set a dead line and move out. It's been 4 years already. My old roomie also moved home right after college for 1 year, during which her mom passed from breast cancer less than 6 months after being diagnosed. She moved out the next summer, her sister was in college and her brother went to college. Her dad found a fantastic woman (they knew from church) and remarried another year later.

Now it's been 6 years later and she tells me what a fantastic woman her stepmom is and stepsiblings. They are very loving and wonderful. She said she's so happy her dad is happy. And visits all the time. So good things can happen.

[ScrimpAndSave]

I think 6-12 months is a good deal. Many of the places that I see on the market have been on for 6-8 months around here...so it isn't like inventory is turning over like crazy.

[Well Spent]

Well Spent,

I saw that last night! But I sided with the mother since the girl wanted 100% financing....barf.

Yeah I cringed when I heard her say that. I didn't think you can even negotiate that anymore. And it was a new episode, I think. She was looking at old homes, too, that need work. No way she should she finance 100% even if they let her!

[Well Spent]

In many ethnic cultures, adult children, particularly women, live at home until they marry and move into a home with the new spouse. I don't think it's unusual at all that ScrimpandSave lives with her widowed dad.

That begin said, it seems that she really does want her own place and is really struggling with this choice.

ScrimpandSave, you might want to bounce your ideas off a counselor or a clergyperson. The grief over losing your mother, your concerns about your father, and your (developmentally appropriate) desire for more freedom and privacy are a lot to sort through.

If this were about money, I think you would have and could have moved out a long time ago.