Sex

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[mommyof4]

At what point in a romantic relationship do you believe you can trust the person enough to begin the sexual relationship? In other words, how much time should you take to make the decision?

When you're married. (Seriously).

[disneysteve]

how much time should you take to make the decision?

As much time as you both need to agree that it is the right decision. If neither of you is ready, it is not the right time. If one of you is ready and the other isn't, it is not the right time. It is impossible for anyone to give a more specific answer than that.

[MonkeyMama]

Well said, Disney Steve.

Highly individual question (depending on both people, and the particular relationship).

I personally go with the gut. What does your gut feeling really say? Hormones aside...

[Broken Arrow]

I just want to say that I've been a good boy so far. Yep. Not gonna say anything in this thread. Yep. No... sly remarks. Nope....

Seriously though, what Steve said.

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Thanks everybody.

[disneysteve]

I'm thinking about 3 months is a good amount of time to evaluate if I can trust a partner.

It has absolutely nothing to do with time. You may know in a week that someone is the right one for you. You may date someone for years before discovering that it just isn't working. Forget trying to set a date and just focus on getting to know each other and building a relationship, if there is one there to build. Besides, what if the other person set a date of 6 months?

[hmd2009]

It has absolutely nothing to do with time. You may know in a week that someone is the right one for you. You may date someone for years before discovering that it just isn't working. Forget trying to set a date and just focus on getting to know each other and building a relationship, if there is one there to build. Besides, what if the other person set a date of 6 months?

I agree with Steve.

I'm not an advocate of waiting until marriage. Sex is something that you need to know if your compatible with that person before making a lifetime commitment.

When your both ready, then that is the time. There is no arbitrary time that someone can pull out of the air.

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[LivingAlmostLarge]

Not only that but waiting until marriage I've seen has caused people to rush into marriage just for sex. Yeah great reason. Only to end up miserable and divorced soon after. Classic case and point...Jessica Simpson. Would he have married her if she gave itup? Probably not. But then he would have placed a higher premium on the relationship than sex.

It's when you and your partner are ready.

[Angio333]

After you are married. True love waits.

[Angio333]

Not only that but waiting until marriage I've seen has caused people to rush into marriage just for sex. Yeah great reason. Only to end up miserable and divorced soon after. Classic case and point...Jessica Simpson. Would he have married her if she gave itup? Probably not. But then he would have placed a higher premium on the relationship than sex.

It's when you and your partner are ready.

How do you know she REALLY was a virgin or was just pretending for the positive press?

[Well Spent]

I don't believe in marrying before having sex. It is wrong.

[LivingAlmostLarge]

I am guessing she waited. Mostly because if you watched her wedding they rushed into it in like 6 months.

[tripods68]

3-month rule is actually a good gauge if your partner is serious about the relationship. Majority of the woman I dated didn't last longer than 3 months. The one that do, became long term for me. But I wouldn't "rush" going all out getting married right a way after 3 months.