Which is better

[LivingAlmostLarge]

A purely non-financial question, is it better to go back to visit someone right before they die and miss the funeral or go back for their funeral?

I ask because my great grandmother is not doing well. It's not the cost of the trip but the time. I want to go back, but if I go back now I doubt I can go back for the funeral. But I really want to see her. Is it okay to do it now instead of the funeral?

Also I'm not sure she's going to die, but I feel that this is it. It's close to the end since she turned 100.

[disneysteve]

Funerals are for the family. They certainly aren't for the deceased. If you want to be there to support the family, go to the funeral. If you want to be there to say your goodbyes to the person, go now. I'd vote for going now. You can support the family in other ways. You can't say goodbye any other way.

[momof1in150]

Go now, you need to see her now and not worry about the funeral.

[Caoineag]

Go see her, funerals are for the living not the dead. As to supporting your family a phone call later on is far more helpful. The grieving rarely know who is or isn't at the funeral. They always know who helped them through the grieving process though.

[simpleyme]

go see her !

[kork13]

Agreed, you should go to see her now... I've been to too many funerals already, and trust me -- if you wait for the funeral, you will have wished you had gone before.

[GREENBACK]

As Kork says you will definitely wish you had gone now and got your chance to say goodbye to them when they could, hopefully, comprehend it.

[creditcardfree]

I agree with everyone else. Go see her now.

[mommyof4]

I'd go see her now.

[faithman1012005@yahoo.com]

I agree with the others, I'd go see her now while she's still alive

[sandyandry]

Agreed with all, better go and see her now, you will feel good.

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[Johansen8]

I will see her before she closes her eyes for the last time.

[kebark]

good choice, always better to say bye, than wish you had

[destiny10]

If you really want to see her, then you should go now. She will give you her blessings before she dies and maybe she will die when you are there after giving you her blessings so you will even attend burial.

[Exile]

Go now. You will have greater peace of mind for it.