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  • GoodSteward
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    It is wise to recognize the common factors that will strain any relationship and have clarity on your partner's views before becoming married. Money, Religion, Politics, etc. If you feel you need to change the other person a lot then you don't need to get married. We don't get married to fix each other.

    Money needs to be discussed to a point, but mostly debt. There needs to be a clear picture of debt before marriage, as well as a plan IMO.

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  • GoodSteward
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    Originally posted by DaveInPgh View Post
    With two kids there?

    Do I come off as the type of guy that would engage in premarital sex?

    The question was about new relationships. I interpreted the picture to be a response to that question. lol
    Last edited by GoodSteward; 08-31-2016, 02:33 AM.

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  • Outdoorsygal
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    Originally posted by ronb View Post
    When establishing a new life with your partner, one of the first things you should talk about is money. How do you prepare yourself for it?
    You don't.

    Don't focus on it, money is fleeting. It's vanity and you'll get back what you give out.

    If you cannot share in everything (not you per se) then marriage will likely be very difficult. I don't know how old you are but it seems you are overly obsessed with money. I'm not perfect by far... but sometimes our focus will become our mate's focus also, yet not always in the manner we had hoped. People fall in love naturally and as you get to know one another, you will learn her/his values in time. Give it time. FWIW, If you focus on what's important in life, you will likely attract similar. JMHO

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  • FLA
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    Originally posted by sv2007 View Post
    Money isn't too important; love can make all things work.

    Although I read that money causes a lot of marital problems, I do wonder if there's more issues at stake than just money.
    put a big spender and a frugal partner together and watch how that turns out. Conversations about money before marriage are critical to increase the odds of a good outcome.

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  • DaveInPgh
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    Originally posted by sv2007 View Post
    The main thing is chemistry. Everything else is secondary.

    Some marriage advice: marry someone your respect; marry someone your ages (or very close); marry for love; and never settle for someone not up to your standards. Marriage is really an optional part of life after all -- no need to force it.

    I should become a marriage counselor!
    The last thing YOU should do in life is counsel anyone on anything!

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  • DaveInPgh
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    Originally posted by GoodSteward View Post
    haha! Was that your honey moon picture?
    With two kids there?

    Do I come off as the type of guy that would engage in premarital sex?

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  • sv2007
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    The main thing is chemistry. Everything else is secondary.

    Some marriage advice: marry someone your respect; marry someone your ages (or very close); marry for love; and never settle for someone not up to your standards. Marriage is really an optional part of life after all -- no need to force it.

    I should become a marriage counselor!

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  • sv2007
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    Money isn't too important; love can make all things work.

    Although I read that money causes a lot of marital problems, I do wonder if there's more issues at stake than just money.

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  • amastewa93
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    You and your partner need to discuss this, I recommend David Bach's Smart Couples Finish Rich - there are a lot of good exercises for couples to discuss their values and financial knowledge there.

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  • GoodSteward
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    Originally posted by DaveInPgh View Post
    haha! Was that your honey moon picture?

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    Love & Money

    When establishing a new life with your partner, one of the first things you should talk about is money. How do you prepare yourself for it?
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