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    When establishing a new life with your partner, one of the first things you should talk about is money. How do you prepare yourself for it?

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      #3
      Originally posted by DaveInPgh View Post
      haha! Was that your honey moon picture?
      Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes that reason is you're stupid and make bad choices.

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        #4
        You and your partner need to discuss this, I recommend David Bach's Smart Couples Finish Rich - there are a lot of good exercises for couples to discuss their values and financial knowledge there.

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          #5
          Money isn't too important; love can make all things work.

          Although I read that money causes a lot of marital problems, I do wonder if there's more issues at stake than just money.

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            #6
            The main thing is chemistry. Everything else is secondary.

            Some marriage advice: marry someone your respect; marry someone your ages (or very close); marry for love; and never settle for someone not up to your standards. Marriage is really an optional part of life after all -- no need to force it.

            I should become a marriage counselor!

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              #7
              Originally posted by GoodSteward View Post
              haha! Was that your honey moon picture?
              With two kids there?

              Do I come off as the type of guy that would engage in premarital sex?

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                #8
                Originally posted by sv2007 View Post
                The main thing is chemistry. Everything else is secondary.

                Some marriage advice: marry someone your respect; marry someone your ages (or very close); marry for love; and never settle for someone not up to your standards. Marriage is really an optional part of life after all -- no need to force it.

                I should become a marriage counselor!
                The last thing YOU should do in life is counsel anyone on anything!

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by sv2007 View Post
                  Money isn't too important; love can make all things work.

                  Although I read that money causes a lot of marital problems, I do wonder if there's more issues at stake than just money.
                  put a big spender and a frugal partner together and watch how that turns out. Conversations about money before marriage are critical to increase the odds of a good outcome.

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by ronb View Post
                    When establishing a new life with your partner, one of the first things you should talk about is money. How do you prepare yourself for it?
                    You don't.

                    Don't focus on it, money is fleeting. It's vanity and you'll get back what you give out.

                    If you cannot share in everything (not you per se) then marriage will likely be very difficult. I don't know how old you are but it seems you are overly obsessed with money. I'm not perfect by far... but sometimes our focus will become our mate's focus also, yet not always in the manner we had hoped. People fall in love naturally and as you get to know one another, you will learn her/his values in time. Give it time. FWIW, If you focus on what's important in life, you will likely attract similar. JMHO

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by DaveInPgh View Post
                      With two kids there?

                      Do I come off as the type of guy that would engage in premarital sex?

                      The question was about new relationships. I interpreted the picture to be a response to that question. lol
                      Last edited by GoodSteward; 08-31-2016, 03:33 AM.
                      Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes that reason is you're stupid and make bad choices.

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                        #12
                        It is wise to recognize the common factors that will strain any relationship and have clarity on your partner's views before becoming married. Money, Religion, Politics, etc. If you feel you need to change the other person a lot then you don't need to get married. We don't get married to fix each other.

                        Money needs to be discussed to a point, but mostly debt. There needs to be a clear picture of debt before marriage, as well as a plan IMO.
                        Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes that reason is you're stupid and make bad choices.

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                          #13
                          Probably most important is don't rush into a marriage. Date for a year or more first to find out about the other person and if you are compatible.

                          Money is only one piece of the whole pie and getting too nosey and in depth about finances early in a relationship could be a real turn off. If you are paying attention, that stuff will all surface as you get to know the person.

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                            #14
                            Originally posted by amastewa93 View Post
                            You and your partner need to discuss this, I recommend David Bach's Smart Couples Finish Rich - there are a lot of good exercises for couples to discuss their values and financial knowledge there.
                            Wanna guess what my user name stands for?

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                              #15
                              Originally posted by FLA View Post
                              put a big spender and a frugal partner together and watch how that turns out. Conversations about money before marriage are critical to increase the odds of a good outcome.
                              When a person finds his/her true love, money will not mean anything.

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