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College can be a good time to meet someone outside your comfort zone not for money. I meant that in the best way possible. You can meet someone studying something completely different. You can meet someone you wouldn't normally meet because you are exposed to different people.
When you are out of college a lot of times you date people you work with or meet through work.
Also in college many people don't consider earning potential. Instead they look more for compatability. I've found from my friends who use match.com or eharmony they are looking at earning potential and job and basically a certain social class. This also I've found tend to make matches a lot more economically better but not necessarily a better fit.
In college i agree you don't know yourself as well, and you grow a lot out of it. I would probably say marry a few years after college to establish yourself. But that meeting someone in college and growing together especially if you are foundationally compatible and support each other from the star is different.
I mean the basis of me supporting DH through job change, zero income is very different attitude i can tell from people who married someone at 30 or 35 and had an expectation of say $100k income. I could care less. A lot of my friends who married later would not accept a lessening of economic stability/status. I didn't know him as someone who earned that or had that sort of job. It was a gamble. Instead I partnered up based on other reasons. So finances aren't that important.
When you are out of college a lot of times you date people you work with or meet through work.
Also in college many people don't consider earning potential. Instead they look more for compatability. I've found from my friends who use match.com or eharmony they are looking at earning potential and job and basically a certain social class. This also I've found tend to make matches a lot more economically better but not necessarily a better fit.
In college i agree you don't know yourself as well, and you grow a lot out of it. I would probably say marry a few years after college to establish yourself. But that meeting someone in college and growing together especially if you are foundationally compatible and support each other from the star is different.
I mean the basis of me supporting DH through job change, zero income is very different attitude i can tell from people who married someone at 30 or 35 and had an expectation of say $100k income. I could care less. A lot of my friends who married later would not accept a lessening of economic stability/status. I didn't know him as someone who earned that or had that sort of job. It was a gamble. Instead I partnered up based on other reasons. So finances aren't that important.
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