Wedding gifts

[disneysteve]

A backyard wedding in Boston can cost just as much as a church & ballroom blowout in Kentucky.

Or it can cost very little. It all depends how you do it. Your backyard wedding could be recorded music, home-cooked food, mismatched chairs and hand-made favors. You can do cheap anywhere if you choose to.

[cschin4]

The point of going to someone's wedding is to celebrate their joy. The gift is a side issue. But, when giving, what is wrong with being generous? A few extra bucks given as a wedding gift isn't going to break anyone. Give what you feel comfortable with. And, if you can only afford a little, give a litte or get a small gift. Whatever. Don't make attending a wedding about the gift.
There truly are a lot of cynical people. My pet peeve is people who come to weddings and start complaining about the accomodations (too expensive or not expensive enough), they don't like the food served, they don't like the alcohol because there is no or cash bar or free flowing, they don't like the band, they don't "think" the couple "should have spent" xyz as if it is any of their business. I wouldn't want anyone at my wedding who wasn't happy to be there. ANd, the reason you invite people isn't some cash grab but because you genuinely want them to be there with you as you go through one of the most important events in your life. The cynics can stay home. No thanks, keep your gift is that is what is all about to them.

[BudgetSurgeon]

The point of going to someone's wedding is to celebrate their joy. The gift is a side issue. But, when giving, what is wrong with being generous? A few extra bucks given as a wedding gift isn't going to break anyone. Give what you feel comfortable with. And, if you can only afford a little, give a litte or get a small gift. Whatever. Don't make attending a wedding about the gift.
There truly are a lot of cynical people. My pet peeve is people who come to weddings and start complaining about the accomodations (too expensive or not expensive enough), they don't like the food served, they don't like the alcohol because there is no or cash bar or free flowing, they don't like the band, they don't "think" the couple "should have spent" xyz as if it is any of their business. I wouldn't want anyone at my wedding who wasn't happy to be there. ANd, the reason you invite people isn't some cash grab but because you genuinely want them to be there with you as you go through one of the most important events in your life. The cynics can stay home. No thanks, keep your gift is that is what is all about to them.

I really enjoyed reading that. Words to live by, for sure. I think everyone could learn from what you just said.