Sharing a bank account with your spouse

[cptacek]

Good. I hope everybody is so protected.

[thekid]

Good. I hope everybody is so protected.

If one doesn't trust his/her spouse enough to grant him/her access to your bank account in case of emmergency (thinking he/she might abuse of the situation), there is more serious underlying issues in the marriage.

We seperate our non-communal spending as that makes sense in our situation (dual income) and is the way we prefer to handle our finances. It's not and should not be because of an underlying trust issue.

[stigrl]

Wow, am I glad to be reading all these responses.

Starting earlier this year, my husband and I seperated our accounts mainly for the purpose of seperating our spending money. We pay all the bills out of my account (since I make a higher income than him) and my husband gives me a lump sum of money at the end of the month to contribute. Whatever we have for spending money is in our individual accounts after bills, savings, etc. I personally use a set amount of cash per week for spending.

However, when we are out in a social setting, our friends think it is so unbelievable that we pay separately for our food, entertainment, etc. Sometimes we pay for eachother, also, but our friends make me feel so bad for doing it this way... and I don't feel like getting into it with them and explaining WHY we do it this way, mainly because my husband has a problem with spending and I don't want it to influence our credit/money/monthly bills anymore!!! Ahhh.... well I'm glad to know this isn't uncommon and actually seems like a good way to do things.