I know there is an old argument about kids and allowance and should they have to earn it, etc. I just wanted to share a system we are implementing with our kids that I'm pretty proud of. Also, open to additional ideas or tweaks.
I want my kids to learn the value of money, but also how it interacts with time and effort. What we are doing is a point system for rewards. At the fundamental level, it is basically work for rewards. However, I'm having them help determine the point values. Some of the things we talk about are how long a task takes, how difficult it is, and how gross it is (like cleaning the toilet) and whether or not those things should have an impact on the points it earns.
The second piece we are discussing is the amount of points necessary to earn a reward. We look at the actual $$, distance, time, and even difficulty of including their severely autistic brother in calculating the "value" of the reward.
My favorite part, though, is how points are allocated. All awards with point cost will be posted. When a child earns a point, they can apply it toward any reward they want. They can determine if they want to work toward a short term goal, like getting an ice cream, to a longer term goal like an overnight trip to a water park. They can team up to reach a shared goal faster.
One thing I'm finding difficult is fairness. We haven't rolled out this new system yet, so input would be great. These rewards are given to everyone together, so there is the potential of one child getting lazy while the other one earns all the points and earns a reward for himself and his brothers.
A little background might help. We have 4 boys in our home. 1 is 17 and has his own chores and rewards, although he would not be excluded from these things, especially the family trips. 2 of the boys are about the same age and ability. There have been discipline issues and 1 is mildly autistic. These are the 2 that the point system is geared toward. I want it to be as self-governing as possible to reduce arguments and whining. Our 4th child is severely autistic. We have a separate system for him to earn small praises and rewards multiple times a day and, like the older one, he is included in all family rewards as appropriate.
Any ideas on keeping it fair? Any way to make it more educational in a fiscal sense?
I want my kids to learn the value of money, but also how it interacts with time and effort. What we are doing is a point system for rewards. At the fundamental level, it is basically work for rewards. However, I'm having them help determine the point values. Some of the things we talk about are how long a task takes, how difficult it is, and how gross it is (like cleaning the toilet) and whether or not those things should have an impact on the points it earns.
The second piece we are discussing is the amount of points necessary to earn a reward. We look at the actual $$, distance, time, and even difficulty of including their severely autistic brother in calculating the "value" of the reward.
My favorite part, though, is how points are allocated. All awards with point cost will be posted. When a child earns a point, they can apply it toward any reward they want. They can determine if they want to work toward a short term goal, like getting an ice cream, to a longer term goal like an overnight trip to a water park. They can team up to reach a shared goal faster.
One thing I'm finding difficult is fairness. We haven't rolled out this new system yet, so input would be great. These rewards are given to everyone together, so there is the potential of one child getting lazy while the other one earns all the points and earns a reward for himself and his brothers.
A little background might help. We have 4 boys in our home. 1 is 17 and has his own chores and rewards, although he would not be excluded from these things, especially the family trips. 2 of the boys are about the same age and ability. There have been discipline issues and 1 is mildly autistic. These are the 2 that the point system is geared toward. I want it to be as self-governing as possible to reduce arguments and whining. Our 4th child is severely autistic. We have a separate system for him to earn small praises and rewards multiple times a day and, like the older one, he is included in all family rewards as appropriate.
Any ideas on keeping it fair? Any way to make it more educational in a fiscal sense?
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