Divergent financial views with yours spouse?

[AJ444]

Lying to who? The priest? His prospective wife?

Priest, fiancé is aware and is just happy my bro is going along with it.

[Joan.of.the.Arch]

I don't see that there should be any reason to lie to the priest in pre-marital sessions. Isn't the biggest part of the program taking a huge inventory on psychological issues, general & specific values (including money related matters!), expectations, and hopes so that you can flush out any potential sore spots ahead of time? And then meeting with long-married couples and other engaged couples? I wouldn't think there is need to lie about any faith related matters, in fact, that would be opposed to the goals of pre-marital counseling.

I know a woman who was thrilled with the premarital counseling she and her husband got at a church. Just really tickled about it. She was not a member of the church. I don't remember what her husband's thoughts about it were, but he is really low-key, so in contrast to her, his attitude didn't make a lasting impression on me.

[dawnwes]

Priest, fiancé is aware and is just happy my bro is going along with it.

So is he lying and saying he is a Catholic? Saying he believes in God, what?

[Nutria]

So is he lying and saying he is a Catholic? Saying he believes in God, what?

Well, he is an Evil, Evil, Baby-Eating Satanist (that's the same as atheist, right? ), so a little lying won't damn him to Perdition any more than he already is.

[AJ444]

I don't see that there should be any reason to lie to the priest in pre-marital sessions. Isn't the biggest part of the program taking a huge inventory on psychological issues, general & specific values (including money related matters!), expectations, and hopes so that you can flush out any potential sore spots ahead of time? And then meeting with long-married couples and other engaged couples? I wouldn't think there is need to lie about any faith related matters, in fact, that would be opposed to the goals of pre-marital counseling.

I know a woman who was thrilled with the premarital counseling she and her husband got at a church. Just really tickled about it. She was not a member of the church. I don't remember what her husband's thoughts about it were, but he is really low-key, so in contrast to her, his attitude didn't make a lasting impression on me.

My view is that it is more about the $ and locking up future members, if I deemed counseling necessary I would seek a secular option with no donation pressure.

[AJ444]

So is he lying and saying he is a Catholic? Saying he believes in God, what?

When he was asked what he believed he said he was "raised Methodist", which is actually a response I used to use. Not a lie per se but definitely an omission of fact.

I believe this is heading into a religious discussion which I don't believe what the OP intended so I won't answer in any more detail on this thread. If you'd like to ask anything further via PM please feel free to send me one.