Pet peeve invites

[LivingAlmostLarge]

Do you ever get annoyed by people who don't rsvp to a party? Especially when you remind them? Do you have to call and hound them? Or hope they don't show?

Second, what happens when on an invite it specifically says Classmate/named child and they rsvp for siblings? Do you contact the parent and say the sibling isn't invited?

[rennigade]

Ask anyone who has ever been married and has thrown a reception. There usually one or two people who never rsvp. For me personally...it doesnt bother me, I just dont include them. I wasnt about to save a seat for them/plate of food. My wife on the other hand has more compassion and reached out to those few people. I would have loved thank them for attending the wedding ceremony...but sadly you wont be able to stay for the reception.

[Joan.of.the.Arch]

LAL, I can't say I understand what society at large thinks about not RSVPing or sending uninvited children to a party. But I see it complained of so much on the internet, that it must be quite common. I just do not understand it. It seems like fundamentally self-centered and rude to not respond, to respond with a list of uninvited kids, or simply sending kids without ever making a response.

I did run into this years ago before the internet. I probably had read in magazines and newspapers that RSVP requests were being responded to less and less. I was still unprepared when it happened upon my child's 8th birthday. I think we sent out about 16 or 18 invitations. If I recall correctly, we got ONE actual response. My kid was seen as a little "different" anyway so I wondered whether this was a message that no one cared for him. I did feel it personally. I did not have the guts to call and ask the parents if their kids were coming. It already felt like a rebuff.

Guess what happened? Every kid showed up. (But not with siblings in tow. Things weren't that bad yet.) We had gone ahead and prepared for everyone invited, thank goodness.

I wish someone would actively defend not RSVPing. I'd like to know what they are thinking. Likewise, I'd like to hear why they would think it is a good idea to send extra kids to a child's party.

[twest]

Don't understand this myself

I have even gone so far as to request that people call or text....that way if they just want to shoot a quick text saying "we can't be there" or "we will be there" they can do that without even the hassle of a phone call. That hasn't proven to work out very well either.

[LivingAlmostLarge]

Why don't people rsvp? I can email to specify no siblings after rsvp yes. but otherwise why are they so inconsiderate?

[BuckyBadger]

I don't know why other people do the things that they do. I try not to dwell on things I can't change.

[snafu]

People seem to be getting more rude with every passing day. Just yesterday, someone shot a movie go-er because he was texting [the baby sitter]. It seems pointless to expect people to RVSP, perhaps they have no idea that it means Respond,Si Vous Plait. Perhaps they see it as un necessary as they believe you know they will come. One solution is to phone your guest list rather than send an invitation for less formal occasions.

[LivingAlmostLarge]

Yeah it's just a pet peeve