Living Together, who pays what?

[cptacek]

The OP is Person 1, so your comments should be towards Person #2, not OP. OP is having difficulty with person #2 not wanting to pay her the previously agreed upon rent.

? I reread the thread and I don't see that. Did I miss something?

[l4lori]

? I reread the thread and I don't see that. Did I miss something?

DebbieL is correct.

[DebbieL]

? I reread the thread and I don't see that. Did I miss something?

Yes, I quoted the person I was responding to. They clearly thought that the OP was the person not carrying their financail weight (person #2) - but OP is person #1.

[EEinNJ]

My suggestion would be the "non-owner" pay half the ongoing expenses for the home, taxes insurance, heat, electric, etc. It would be in good faith to contribute towards capital improvement in some way too, whether it's paint, landscaping- making it more of a home you enjoy together, but not with the expectation of seeing any equity return. A gray area is the 16 year old-that's got to skew the grocery, electric, car operation, etc., but it depends how much you identify as a family.

This is as much a relationship question as financial, if you don't work it out there will be resentment and eventual failure.

[DebbieL]

if they are not in relationship then both have to pay 50-50,and if they are then the person which have high savings or debt can pay more like 70-30 of the total payable ....

I don't agree with that. I couldn't care less how much savings someone I'm in a relationship has - they would still be paying the agreed upon share of the expenses. The OP seems to have set a reasonable, fair payment, and her partner doesn't even want to pay that. It is still cheaper than he was paying before, so I'm not sure why he has such issues.

[fishy40]

Split it 50/50...unless someone is using something more than the other like the toilet paper. Then they should pay for more than half.