Looks like I might be going about this solo...

[Ima saver]

I am so sorry to hear this. I hope things get better.

[ScrimpAndSave]

I guess one good thing is that I'm not going to suddenly have $140,000 of law school student loan debt.

That never bothered me though.

[MomofFour]

Sorry to hear about this.

Are you sure that you guys won't work things out? I'd hate to see you start cancelling everything for the wedding and then get back together in a couple weeks and not be able to get what you already had lined up.

[ScrimpAndSave]

He said it's over.


It's definitely over.

[GREENBACK]

Very sorry to hear that.

[sakigt]

Stupid boys.

If we lived close Id buy you a round this weekend. Keep your head up!

[maat55]

With the weed gone, the grass will get greener. You deserve a tree.

[m3racer]

You'll move on. Someday you'll look back and say to yourself that this was the best thing to happen. Remember the day is darkest right before the dawn.

[disneysteve]

oh wow. Sorry to hear about that but if it does happen it might be in your best interest. You might not see it today but you will see it in the future.

As hard as it is to hear this, it really is true. It is much easier in the long run to end a relationship before marriage because that complicates things a lot.

I guess I am going to try to write letters to the DJ, Photographer, Venue, ceremony musicians and cocktail musicians and see if I can get my deposits back...I doubt it since they are nonrefundable, but it is worth a shot.

In my experience, nonrefundable often means that the company has the right to keep your deposit but also has the discretion not to. Your event was still 9 months away so it isn't like you are cancelling at the last minute. I think if you call and speak to the owners (not just the secretary or regular staff) and explain the situation, they may give you at least partial refunds. They still have plenty of time to rebook that date so they may let you off. Be polite and ask nicely if they would be willing to give any type of refund. I think you'll come out of it with at least some of that money back.

[ScrimpAndSave]

Thanks all.

[SacredFaerie]

Push comes to shove you can just throw all the resources at some other kind of party. And Steve's right. Given that it's so far away they might refund a piece of your deposits.


I'm so sorry.

[KatieNK]

I'm so very sorry! That really sucks.

The money part and the flighty fiance part especially.

[Pitman]

Sorry to hear about that. I know this may sound cliche, but there's more fish in the sea. If he doesn't want to be with you, that's his lost. I know it seems tough now, but you'll be able to pick up, and move on.

[ScrimpAndSave]

I just went through some of the contracts...it looks like I can get some of my money back. My dad put down $2,000 on the reception venue...I definitely need to pay him back. I bought my bridesmaids gifts at Boscovs...and that was over 90 days ago so I can't return the items...but maybe I can get store credit and then use it right away just in case the store closes...

I dunno....I am really in a daze right now.

[bjl584]

Sorry to hear that. I hope everything works out for you.