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  • #31
    Actually I put the quotes on where you said Americans were basically stupid. We get into expensive situations because we choose too.

    Syracusa, I think we may be missing some of your points because it appeared you were painting with a mighty broad stroke. There are many, many people who live in America and stay close to home and love their families very much.
    So I'm not the only one, and it appears in this thread who values family. It looks like a lot of people moved and would move home if given the opportunity. And even more people on the thread have stayed put.

    It looks like Disneysteve is the exception in the thread than the rule, rather than the other way around.

    One thing which you painted broadly is that everyone is moving to big cities on the coast. Um, did you see quite a few live in the midwest Diolla, lux, caoioneg, so where are all these people moving to the coasts?

    Like I pointed out, a lot of people do move away but many would like to live next to family and have hopes of doing so. If that is the case, do they really value family so little as you've implied in your posts?

    And yes you do come across as an arrogant European. After all you paint Americans with a broad brush. You think you've seen all different cultural aspects of Americans. Nevermind that there are so many different cultures present.

    One might point out the Asian Americans in the US tend to bond and stick very closely to family. They often live multi-generationally. And they tend to not live apart. Same with Mexican Americans.

    Also interesting is very rural areas with very small towns. People tend to leave for educational purposes but come back. It has been highly discussed that people leave the appalacians to become teachers but many go back to teach.

    So the sense of community is very strong. I think your basis of Americans is biased. You refuse to look at many different aspect of the american culture, which is a melting pot and only at the highly publicized media image.
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    • #32
      ??? How to answer.

      I moved around alot growing up....But I currently live where I believe I lived the longest grew up. (Live close to my core family)

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      • #33
        Originally posted by LivingAlmostLarge View Post
        It looks like Disneysteve is the exception in the thread than the rule, rather than the other way around.
        I don't think I'm an exception at all. I live about 20 miles from where I grew up. My mom lives 3 miles away. My mother-in-law lives about 30 minutes away. And I have numerous other family members in the immediate area.

        I was just pointing out that overall my generation, compared to my parent's generation, is much more dispersed around the country. Heck, my wife has cousins who live in Switzerland now. People travel more today and people see different parts of the country and the world that appeal to them. And they meet people from other areas and move when they get married. Or they move for work. Or they move to find a more affordable cost of living or a better lifestyle (escape the city and move to the country, for example).

        I haven't moved away, so I don't think I'm an exception.
        Steve

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        • #34
          I can't help to feel like the forums becoming more of a place to side with someone in a feud or hound someone for having an opinion that is so different. I used to feel that it was okay to share my option but now it seems like it’s not okay anymore as it turns into a issue where it has to be proved that someone is more right than the other. This is not fun anymore as I used to enjoy hearing everyone diverse ideas. I am seriously reconsidering if I want to stay on this site or not as I hate signing off with a heavy feeling as this used to be a very warm and friendly and inviting forums. It still is friendly but the unfriendly is getting more noticeable.

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          • #35
            Of myself and 2 siblings, the closest one to where we grew up is still 1.5 hours away. I moved 12 hours away, the other sibling, 6. I would not go to my small hometown again.

            What I would love is if my parents would move here!

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            • #36
              Come to think of it my parents have made moves away from the homeplace - thru divorce one moved to a nearby town, thru jobs-one had a dream which required lots of land, thru marriage - one re-married and moved nearby second-spouse's parents, etc.

              On the other hand, I have had my father-in-law move in with us when he was older and his health was waning. My Grandmother lived w/my Dad and my stepmom until she passed away. My nigh-on-to-grown sons (19 & 21) still live here at home. Two oldest boys live nearby in the metro area within 20 minutes drive. Our daughter married and moved to (you guessed it) the California coast. Because that's where her husband found work.

              We Yanks might not be all bad!

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              • #37
                Originally posted by Gruntina View Post
                I can't help to feel like the forums becoming more of a place to side with someone in a feud or hound someone for having an opinion that is so different. I used to feel that it was okay to share my option but now it seems like it’s not okay anymore as it turns into a issue where it has to be proved that someone is more right than the other. This is not fun anymore as I used to enjoy hearing everyone diverse ideas. I am seriously reconsidering if I want to stay on this site or not as I hate signing off with a heavy feeling as this used to be a very warm and friendly and inviting forums. It still is friendly but the unfriendly is getting more noticeable.
                ditto the worry...some discussions seem more about winning a war than sharing ideas.

                I hesitate to point out I do not live where I grew up and we did move for work..not that there are no jobs in PA, just that here was easier to find them. And I do see a national trend toward moving being the rule.

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                • #38
                  I grew up on a farm in Kansas, then went school in KS and Nebraska. Then, I moved to Dallas for a job. I lived in Dallas for 5 years, then moved back to Kansas when my job let me transfer - I had been trying for 5 years to get that transfer to come back and finally got it.

                  Now, my husband lives about 5 miles from where he grew up...and about 20 miles from where I grew up and where my parents live now. I still haven't been able to move back there permanently because I can't find a job there. So, I live 2.5 hours away from him during the week and see him on the weekends.

                  We have 9 kids in my family, as in me and my brothers and sisters. 3 live in Kansas City (4 hours from home), 2 live by Salina (1 hour from home) and I split time 2.5 hours from home and 20 minutes. The other three are still in school. All of us have said that if we could move back, we would, but there are no jobs that pay well. A lot of people my age say that too. Most people I know from home either farm, start their own businesses or live off mom and dad, or move to KC or Wichita. You can teach there, work in the convenience or grocery stores, or work at the bank. Yep, that's pretty much it. If I got a job there, I would get paid less than 1/3 of what I do now. So, while we don't have kids and are starting to expand our farm, this is the sacrifice we have to make. I am looking for an IT position where I could telecommute or at least work from home a few days a week, but haven't found one yet.

                  Of course, only seeing him 3 nights a week may push out having kids, just cause of logistics, not cause we don't want them.

                  We've been talking about what we would do if I did get pregnant and couldn't find another job. We still haven't hashed that out yet, but his grandma lives in town and that would be a start for us. Haven't broached that to her yet, but he thinks she would love to baby sit for us.

                  I have noticed that a lot of people my parents age are now moving to where their kids are. My aunt and uncle are thinking about moving closer to their two daughters, my sisters inlaws moved closer to them, etc. It may be that they want to be close to family but because of job demands they can't stay in the small town, so the parents move to the city to be close to them.

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                  • #39
                    We live in the same city that we grew up - Columbus, OH. We just moved back. I hadn't lived here for the last 14 years (college + 10 years) and had been in various cities and moved back last year. We were in Nashville for the last few years and would be there still if our families both weren't in Columbus. With a little one now, it is nice being home. However, we loved Nashville and miss it a lot. Talk about moving away and moving back again: my wife was born in Columbus and was there a few years before they moved out of state when she was little. They had built the house in Columbus and then moved. When they moved back about 5 years later, the house they had built in Columbus was for sale and they re-purchased it and that was the house she grew up in. Her parents still live in it.

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                    • #40
                      I live in the same town that I was born and raised! I did leave for a short while after graduating high school but moved back when I was pregnant with my 2nd child to be closer to family! I hated moving back at first, but now I wouldn't trade it for the world. It's a small town life where everyone knows everyone, but my kids thrive here and love it here.

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                      • #41
                        Snave, my Dad sold our homeplace about 5 different times and carried the note each time. Each person defaulted and now he lives in the old homeplace once again!

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