Have you made funeral plans?

[Joan.of.the.Arch]

Your friends might have a gathering to mark the occasional, Ima. And of course something will need to be done with your body. Do you care what is done with it? Do you want your husband to have to make a choice about it at the time of your death? And if you actively want there to be NO funeral of any sort, you should let your husband, friends, and any worship community know. That is planning about funeral matters, too.

Planning ahead of time is not just so that we make sure we get our way. It is also to be kind to our families, friends, close community. Sharing the burden ahead of time.

[fairy74]

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Hopefully no one's leaning over the side of their log and sprinkling dear Uncle Elmer in Splash Mountain, but as long as I don't know about it, I'm not going to worry about it.

hee, hee that was funny, no I haven't done any funeral planning but DH and I need to.

[mekish]

i haven't made funeral plans cause am too busy planning my life!

[neatdesign]

Before we even met, Mark and I both had made the personal decision to be cremated. We are also designated organ donors. Beyond that, though, we haven't really discussed it. It worries me actually because we're from different countries, and if something happened to him I'm not sure I'd know what to do. I guess I could split his ashes, give half to his parents while I keep the other half.

I doubt he really wants a funeral, per se, because he's atheist and not really the sentimental type. But I would probably have one for him, if only because I think everyone deserves a chance to honor and say a final goodbye to someone who's died. I feel the same way about my own death; I'd like people to be able to come together to celebrate my life, but I definitely don't want a religious ceremony. The rest of my family are religious and I worry that they will push their beliefs in this area should I die. For this reason alone I feel that I need to write up something that clearly indicates that this is not what I want.

Our dog is getting quite old, also. She probably won't be around for more than a couple of more years. I adopted her when I was living in Chile, and I've thought about having her cremated and then taking her ashes back to Chile and scattering them in the Andes. Perhaps a bit far-fetched, but who knows?

~ Jenney