Making Friends

[sj999]

You can try voluntary work, you will meet lots of interesting people, do some good and make some new friends.

[GrimJack]

I am with you; I do not make friends easily; I have people who I think of as friends but they never seem to call me even though they are happy to get together if I call them. I am sort of passive I guess. I have great plans to call people but when I get home and into my chair, it is suddenly time to go to bed.

Things are probably going to get even worse now that Mrs. Grimjack is moving out to live on her own (we were never married but we lived together for about 23 years). It is a friendly parting but it is a parting.

[Leslie12]

This is really nice post indeed. I'm with you. Hence I have not much friends but I have world best friends. They remain with me in every condition. I feel much safer with them. They give me motivation. I think friends are best source of my life.

[swapnil]

I am a bit shy by nature so I find it difficult to approach new people instantly though I feel to talk to some person and start a conversation I find it difficult to do so, but after getting to talk 2-3 times with the person and getting familiar I do not find it difficult to make them friends, I have as far as 4 BFF type of friends who call me for having chats with me every other day, If someday I fail to call them they will call me to have a chat with me, I actually have found some very good friends who care for me and also tease me, make me laugh when I am feeling low and I also can share and talk on any topic and that will not affect my friendship with them.
Its bit tough at the start for me to talk to somebody but after the conversation is begun I do have not yet required more than 1 month to get close to them and discuss their or mine personal matters because I have an ability to develop that kind of trust and confidence among them to make them talk or discuss their personal lives openly to me.

[NBK]

making friends

hey just go straight up and say ur name and ask them if they want to hang out

[boefixepa]

Have you ever studied personalities. You sound a lot like me. I have no cell phone...why because I can go days, YES DAYS, without getting a phone call, or using the phone. I found it was a great relief for me when I started reading books about different personality types, and then it clicked, Oh, I'm that type. That's why I am this way, oh and that is why they are that way. I've never had more then 2-3 friends, and I am okay with that. The worst part for me is that my husband is VERY SOCIAL and I hate having to "share" him as I put it. Basically letting him go out and play with his friends. We can change who we are at the core, we just have to learn to play the cards we have been dealt. I've tried being social and I don't "get it". It's work to me, and I don't need more work!!

Try reading "Please Understand Me II" if you are interested. It's my favorite personality book. From a devoted...INTJ

[jane78]

Friends

hey, making friends is so easy nowadays, but finding a true friend is little challenging i have 3 or 4 true friends who will stand with me in every situation,we always enjoy, make fun and spend lots of time with each other we have good understanding among us,.....hope you all have good friends

[coffee]

I have a couple close friends, but most people are more aquaintances. I moved back in 09 to my home town because my dad became ill and he passed a yr ago. My mom is not doing that great so I am stuck here. I get invites occasionally at most, but my home town is too sports minded and I hate sports. Liking techno music does not help. Once a month I go to Kent OH to visit some friends for the night and once every 3 months, I will leave thurs -sun on some type of vacation (usually the Caribbean or central America) to relax. The other issue is when you get older, most people already have their friendships in stone.

[ronantheconan]

I have always found it be a struggle to make new friends. I really don't know why I don't have the social skills to do so. I don't ever seem to get beyond just being an acquaintance to people. And, I don't get invited to things, etc. I have tried to join groups, participate, etc. I know that I don't have a warm, engaging personality and have tried to work on that. We are involved with our children, jobs, the community and church but I really don't have any personal friends that call me to chat or invite me over other than a couple of lifelong friends who live in other areas. I have tried inviting people to do things with me, etc but it just doesn't seem to happen. I have a spouse and 3 children and am busy with them. But, I am feeling more and more distant and removed all the time after trying so long to get beyond the "hi, how are you" stage. This is somewhat embarrassing for me as I have done well in other areas of my life but would like to have some BFF's to hang out with. And, as I get older it seems people already have all the friends they need anyway. And, lately I have found that I am just not up for the struggle so I really have been isolating myself more and more and just not going to the things I used too. Any advice?

You know what, we're somewhat similar and unique at some point. in my case, I don't usually hangout with friends but they'd invite me over and over again. I guess this has to do with good communication in work and outside of work as I jam with them during breaks, talk with them during work, work with them as a friend and not as a boss - though we keep everything professional. Maybe a good start is that you get in a conversation that will somehow change their perspective of you.