how much would you give?

[FLA]

my cousin who has been though a brain aneurysm, gall bladder surgery and the quick death of her dad with lung cancer in the past 6 mos, just got diagnosed with a not good form of breast cancer. My other cousin is setting up a GoFundMe acct in her name. My cousins do not have financial issues (well, the sick one does), but all my other cousins are living pretty high on the hog. I expect their contributions to be high. I am struggling mightily to pay my bills and have had to get help from my parents. My budget says I can give $25, however, I will look incredibly cheap doing that so I'll probably give $50. My sick cousin knows my situation and I;m sure will understand. The rest of my family and friends, well, I;m fearful they'll just think I am cheap and don't care about my cousin.

stick to my budget, right? who cares what others think (well, I must or I wouldn't be posting this, lol)

[~bs]

wait to see what other donate, then donate around the same?

[TexasHusker]

Go with what your heart says to give.

[scfr]

If it were me, I'd donate directly to the sick cousin, not through GoFundMe. It's no one else's business how much is given, and I would want it all to go to the cousin without GoFundMe taking a cut.

[MonkeyMama]

If it were me, I'd donate directly to the sick cousin, not through GoFundMe. It's no one else's business how much is given, and I would want it all to go to the cousin without GoFundMe taking a cut.

Exactly.

In your shoes, I don't know that I would give anything. But if $25 feels right, then that is what I would do.

[disneysteve]

If it were me, I'd donate directly to the sick cousin, not through GoFundMe. It's no one else's business how much is given, and I would want it all to go to the cousin without GoFundMe taking a cut.

I agree 100%. I would NEVER give to a GoFundMe effort. More than once, however, as a result of a GoFundMe campaign, I did make a direct donation to the person/family in need.

How much should you give? Whatever amount you can comfortably afford. If that's $25, so be it. If they don't appreciate a donation of that size, they don't deserve to get it.

[Thrif-t]

I'm pretty sure you can gift "anonymously" and they won't even know.

[bjl584]

Give directly as others have suggested.
Also, give what you are comfortable giving. Don't strain your own finances to give to someone else.

[msomnipotent]

I wouldn't give anything, and I would have choice words for those who had the nerve to say something about it. If you are located near her, offering to help clean her house or take her to her appointments would be a greater gift.

[FLA]

thanks for all the advice. I had no idea GoFundMe takes a cut but it makes sense otherwise how would they stay in business. I think I will send the money directly to her.

[Outdoorsygal]

my cousin who has been though a brain aneurysm, gall bladder surgery and the quick death of her dad with lung cancer in the past 6 mos, just got diagnosed with a not good form of breast cancer. My other cousin is setting up a GoFundMe acct in her name. My cousins do not have financial issues (well, the sick one does), but all my other cousins are living pretty high on the hog. I expect their contributions to be high. I am struggling mightily to pay my bills and have had to get help from my parents. My budget says I can give $25, however, I will look incredibly cheap doing that so I'll probably give $50. My sick cousin knows my situation and I;m sure will understand. The rest of my family and friends, well, I;m fearful they'll just think I am cheap and don't care about my cousin.

stick to my budget, right? who cares what others think (well, I must or I wouldn't be posting this, lol)

I would mail her $25 cash. It's one of those things that might bug you down the line if you don't.
Just say to family members if you feel the need...that you sent her a little something in the mail.
No need to disclose the amount

[FLA]

thank you, I think that's what I might do and if anyone asks, I'll just say I preferred none of my money going towards GoFundMe