cigarettes

[disneysteve]

Yes, I absolutely think this is fair. If he is spending $100/month on Cigarettes, you get $100/month to do with what *you* want, too.

I disagree. I don't think that is good money management - "You're blowing money so I should get to blow money, too." Spending by a couple isn't going to be even, dollar for dollar. My wife spends more than me on clothing. Does that mean I should go out and spend that same amount on something else? Of course not.

Here's an idea. He's spending $100/month on cigarettes. Why don't you spend $100/month to buy him Chantix and get him to quit?

[Ima saver]

I agree with steve!

[mezzchick]

Just a thought..would he consider rolling his own cigarettes? It doesn't take long. My husband and I do this and it costs about 30 dollars a month for the two of us.

[Spud]

I disagree. I don't think that is good money management - "You're blowing money so I should get to blow money, too." Spending by a couple isn't going to be even, dollar for dollar. My wife spends more than me on clothing. Does that mean I should go out and spend that same amount on something else? Of course not.

Here's an idea. He's spending $100/month on cigarettes. Why don't you spend $100/month to buy him Chantix and get him to quit?

You didn't read the rest of my post. Of course I don't think that if the one person is spending $100 on crap, then the other should spend $100 on crap too. But for one partner to have 'extra' and the other to have nothing, or to feel like they have nothing (which is worse, imo!) isn't fair, and creates disparity in power. If that $100/month went to pay off her bills, or in a piggy bank account for a rainy day, or whatever, that's fine ... but she should feel like she has a little of her own money to do whatever she wants with. Of course, if buying Chantix for her husband makes her feel happy and empowered, then by all means, do that!

[Hot dog]

My hubby asked if today was the day for the smoking cessation class. It is tomorrow but he seems to be initiating a little more. I have to say I have been blessed with a wonderful husband who is not wonderful with $ so he wants me to handle it. He does not spend a lot on extras. He does have a weakness for cars but controls it. I just have car salesmen calling me often. He just looks a lot and knows he can not have. I had gotten CC for gas and he was doing good until the last couple of months. So he gave them back to me cause he is seeing it is just to easy to pay with the card. He never had a card because he didn't trust himself.
Like I stated earlier I was thinking about pooling our money so he can have more of a part but keeping separate accounts for a certain amount we do not have to answer to each other for. As of now we both pay bills and any extra we both have at the end of the month goes to the 2nd mortgage. It has worked for us. I just choose to not spend on myself cause I'd rather get rid of the mortgage but if I want something he always says get it.