Need Advice: Friend divorcing

[catlinye_maker]

I have thought about a divorce arbitrator but in this case, he just seems to be kind of the "passive" kind of guy and is why I think he needs representation.
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He'll say, "Oh well, I feel sorry for her. . .she didn't get to live her 20's" because she married me at 25." WTF? (see what I mean by being passive?) Society is supposed to feel sorry for this person that she didn't get to party past 25?
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I think he needs representation doubley because he's a man and this country likes to put the screws to fathers/men on the legal system.

I was just hoping there was some kind of short term solution to stop the bleeding.

Ouch! "She didn't get to live her 20's"?!? I got married in my twenties and life got _better_. It sounds like you are absolutely right, he needs a lawyer. And custody, if he can get it! But to do that he's got to take a step to making the divorce real. Do you think that's what's keeping him from acting?

[rob62521]

I concur, he needs respresenation now. It also depends on what state the couple lives in as to how assets will be split. In Illinois, the assets are 50-50, including the 401K. I would find a divorce lawyer who handles this sort of thing. My bil just hired an attorney while the sil hired a divorce lawyer. He called her lawyer a pitbull, but she got the very best for her client and gave very good legal advice. Of course, as a side note, it was all for naught -- they decided to get back together.