Beautiful People Earn More

**PrincessPerky** · 08-13-2007, 08:09 AM

That must make me downright horrid looking at my zero income....

Course I have to say reading the article I wonder if they even tried to factor in the face expressions...a scowl is not good looking and anti cooperation people are often scowling...is that how you spell it? My point is happy people, look better.

Join Date: May 2025 · 08-13-2007, 01:34 PM

But maybe beautiful people smile more because they're treated better their whole lives, and they're more sociable/cooperative because people have always approached them because of their pleasing looks.

Just a thought.

**simpleyme** · 08-13-2007, 02:43 PM

i found out at work i was beautiful people LOL

when i was a teen i worked at a buffet restaurant well one day we were really short on people and I was desperate for help they had 3 dishwashers in the back and they were all caught up so i asked my boss if i could have one for the night , he told me no then explained that only attractive people were assigned out front to deal with the public!!!

I looked around and sure enough everyone out front was attractive and some behind the scenes not so much, i was irritated as i was hoping to leave that kind of crap at school

**dcox20** · 08-13-2007, 03:59 PM

agree - I'm freakin gorgeous and loaded...

**simpleyme** · 08-13-2007, 04:33 PM

Originally posted by dcox20 View Post

agree - I'm freakin gorgeous and loaded...

well darn it i may have let myself go then..... as i am not loaded

**InDebtInDC** · 08-14-2007, 02:23 AM

I think beauty is more in the way you carry yourself and your attitude than what you actually look like. If you take care of yourself anybody can be perceived as beautiful.

Join Date: May 2025 · 08-14-2007, 04:24 AM

Originally posted by InDebtInDC View Post

I think beauty is more in the way you carry yourself and your attitude than what you actually look like. If you take care of yourself anybody can be perceived as beautiful.

I admire your idealistic view of the world... Unfortunately it just doesn't work this way.

**PrincessPerky** · 08-14-2007, 08:51 AM

Well this post is a bit more rambling than I intended.....and I doubt anyone has time to read it all, I certainly didn't have time to write it all!

See the thing is I have been called beautiful, and been called ugly ...difference was partly personal taste (contrary to popular myth, not everyone likes redheads)

The rest of the time it is due my screw ups...whether depressed and miserable, personal care, or lack therof following, or cranky and mad all the time...I have been ugly not due to birth, but to me and my attitude. Kinda like Cruella d'ville...sure she might have the right features, but that smoking and constant 'mean' look ruins it for most.

Not to say that major irregularities aren't a cause for discomfort...that is prolly a holdover survival trait (brain trying to protect by removing self, generally un needed today)

And not all waitresses are good looking, I worked with plenty of cranky faced (and yeah it made em not good looking) waitresses. And the always smiling guy got way better reviews...cause anything he screwed up was fixed with an apologetic smile..not a cranky 'couldn't be my fault'.

One girl I taught in preK long ago was below average looks when I met her..she also would scream till she puked if crossed....most of her providers tried to avert the puke at all costs...I let her, then I told her to clean it up, and suggested it didn't look like fun and she might not want to repeat it ever again...she cleaned with a very surprised look on (I helped, she was only 3) and started to behave better, smiled a real smile more...less of a 'I got my way' smirk, and more of a genuine 'cool fun' smile..started to look prettier too.......

I would guesstimate that you can't go from a 0 to hero by being nice and enjoying life..but in my experience with children it does make a significant difference. (that and regular healthy food and showers)

Ever hear the phrase 'when you smile your whole face is transformed' It is true, and a smile physche effects your voice too (folk trained to answer phones are trained to smile, it 'hears' instead of shows)

Now as to pretty kids being treated better...most kids are born cute (baring medical problems- oh and after the squished blotchy phase, k most 1 month olds are cute) the early life prolly does effect them to a great deal, but it is based on environment mostly, not early looks. The reason Aunt Martha picked lil Susie to be the favorite was cause she had curls like Aunt Martha wanted/had.....not because curls are inherently prettier. (check out beauty mores of history..red used to be a terrible color to suffer through...and at one time blond was out, brunette in..curls have gone up and down in favor more times than hair length, not to mention the wavering weight issue, big was a sign of wealth at one time)

So does that prove looks can get you ahead, since it was just her curls...only if you remove the word 'beautiful'...in style looks maybe (and that is in style to those in power to effect you mostly at a young age, no one is fired for straightening their hair! well maybe in Hollywood).

Beauty is all in the eye of the beholder after the basics of happy, clean and healthy.

And the way to get around it isn't to scowl and complain about beauty obsessed culture, it is to stop reading beauty mags and stop trying to find out what is in..instead wear what looks good (not in style, good on you personally) and will allow you to get the job done. Then go about it as happily and flexibly as you can regardless...the less time you blame something out of your control the more in control you feel and the better you can do your job, whatever that is.

The number one thing that changes an attitude to ugly is feeling like you are doing it all....I knew a gal who did nothing but would say yes whenever asked..then would turn around and charm someone else into doing it for her...she was 'such a great worker' because she said yes with a smile...I was not because I said 'no' busy doing the last 10 things you asked her to do, with a scowl...after all I was being asked the impossible and covering for her, they couldn't expect me to do another thing......couldn't they see how much work I was doing?

Not that I now say yes to everything, just that I try for maybe, I need more info, and I will do as much as I can..so now I am a slightly above average 'worker' (volunteer) betcha I would be rated as slightly above average looks too. In a previous position in my past I was a 'sure anything' gal, I was also frequently rated 'wow' looking...not that much older now....look pretty much the same....so why the change....I think it is the willingness to work. Now that I am not as flexible they are not as 'charitable' with the beauty rating. but just flexible enough to be 'pretty'.

**dcox20** · 08-14-2007, 09:38 AM

Originally posted by InDebtInDC View Post

I think beauty is more in the way you carry yourself and your attitude than what you actually look like. If you take care of yourself anybody can be perceived as beautiful.

That's what ugly people tell themselves...

just kidding of course

**InDebtInDC** · 08-14-2007, 01:50 PM

Originally posted by dcox20 View Post

That's what ugly people tell themselves...

just kidding of course

I feel good. I feel great. I feel wonderful...

**Duchesse** · 08-15-2007, 05:53 AM

Beautiful people earn more but how much do they save?

On the motivational money quote thread a gent posted a very good one,

"Life is a **** sandwich, the more dough you have the less **** you eat."

**dcox20** · 08-15-2007, 09:17 AM

Originally posted by InDebtInDC View Post

I feel good. I feel great. I feel wonderful...

You're good enough, you're smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like you!

**Joan.of.the.Arch** · 08-16-2007, 06:31 AM

I would rate myself at slightly below average looks. Is it coincidence that the highest wages I have earned have been for online contracting and no clients had any idea what I looked like?

One company wanted a photo to publish online. I never got around to submitting one.

RE smiling waitpeople-- I heard a study that found that grumpy, rude waitresses make more tips than pleasant, cheery waitresses! My niece was sometimes a grumpy, rude waitress and found that it worked out that way for her. When she was having a bad day and it showed, people tipped more. Ugh, she also seemed to have a "following" of male customers who wanted to be waited on by her just for her meanness. So with these regulars she would use that sort of teasing humor in which you insult the other person and act derisively toward them. I shudder at the thought. I don't like that kind of humor in any circumstances. In the restaurant situation it seemed like some sort of minor S-M practice.

Beautiful People Earn More