Trading places

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It's so odd to hear from so many women who handle bills. It's just odd to me because I was once married to a woman who was the exact opposite while I handled all the bills.

[boefixepa]

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My mom always did the bills. In fact in every household where I knew the family well enough to know, it was always the women. I grew up believing it was just part of 'wife duty.' It wasn't until I was in college that I learned that was not always the case.

[lillyb]

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I grew up with mom taking care of the money, dad didn't want anything to do with it. I'm married to the same type, I suppose.

[boefixepa]

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Bet he grew up in the same type too. His dad never had to worry about the bills, why should he, kind of thing. I wonder if we polled the general population how it would fall.

[notmadeofmoney]

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My husband and I share the responsibility for our finances. When we got married, everything became "ours". We set up one checking account and one savings account. Have always used Quicken software to manage the finances. Early on in our marriage we would make it a weekly "date" night to post our receipts to Quicken and pay the bills. After our 3rd child was born, we decided to alternate turns posting. So he posts and pays bills one week and then it's my turn the next week, that way we both are informed as to what our financial status is. It helps because we're "on the same page" when it comes to finances (tithing, saving, spending, budgeting, etc.) Just celebrated our 13th year of a very happy marriage!

[Ima saver]

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Sometimes I wish my husband would want to learn a little bit more about the bill paying.

[getforfree]

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My dad was always handling the bills, but in my family now, I do it. I am glad, my DH doesn't want to do it.

[PrincessPerky]

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I think DH would be perfectly capable of it, but with 24 hours a day,how much of it do I want taken up with mney, he already spends 10ish earning it (8 working, 1.5 driving, and .5 eating there)

When he comes home I would rather he play with the kids, hear them read, play a bit and tuck them in, then I would still rather he swiffer the floor than pay a bill (I can pay em with my feet up!)

I moaned once about him not doing something or other, and he asked me 'when did you want me to do it?" not wined, just asked, and truth is if I ordered his day for him I still wouldn't come up with spare time to pay the bills!

[cschin4]

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I used to do the bills, but got tired of it and now hubby does the monthly bills. We don't have any "yours or mine" accounts. It is all in one pot and we both take out money and buy what we want. But, we are both responsible in our spending so we have never had a problem.
I am more interested in finances, so I do the retirement planning, investing and so forth.