Do any of you pay for a house cleaner?

[rennigade]

If you have the money...go for it. I had one friend who was rich and had a cleaning service. Another couple used a cleaning service and they were living paycheck to paycheck. Both would have someone come by once every other week and clean. Their first cleaning was more expensive for some reason...guess they had to go over everything head to toe...then the cleanings after were basically to maintain.

I wouldnt personally want someone going through my house to clean...but if I did I would put out bait for them...meaning I would stick some change somewhere and know the amount...some other random valuables or money elsewhere, etc etc...and I would check after they were done cleaning if the items were still there. If not...they're done obviously.

[disneysteve]

Folks, can we get back to the question. If you have experience hiring a cleaning service, please share your experiences and tips. I didn't start the thread to debate whether or not we (or anyone) should hire one.

[FLA]

but they both hate these tasks and seem to have the money to hire help. Why should she be stuck doing tasks she truly hates just because she's the one who happens to be at home? She could be working on string theory for all we know. I doubt she's lounging around eating bon bons.

[rennigade]

how do you know what she does all day? and just because a spouse does not have an outside paying job, all chores should not just automatically be dumped on her/him. Marriage is a partnership

Couldnt agree more...which is why the person who is home all day should step up their game so the person who has to drive to work doesnt have to come home to it. Its not a gender specific role.

When my wife drives home from DC every single week she comes home to a clean house and food ready to eat. She takes care of the laundry on her work at home days. Food is then ready when I get home. Not really a big deal...its not difficult to accomplish such simple tasks.

[FLA]

You already have a cleaning person...its your stay at home wife.

I fail to see how someone struggles to vacuum, wipe down floors/shower/mirrors/vanity and dust. That makes up 95% of cleaning a home.

how do you know what she does all day? and just because a spouse does not have an outside paying job, all chores should not just automatically be dumped on her/him. Marriage is a partnership

[LivingAlmostLarge]

Yes every other week since 2010. I just switched. i pay $120/cleaning and I'm considering every week but i'm lazy because I hate picking up every week. I stay at home so it's offensive to say it's a stay at home wife's job.

We started when we had our 1st. If i was home then when DH got home he needed to "help"me with the deep cleaning not just dishes, cooking, vaccuming, wiping, toilets, sheets. He didn't want to so we have a cleaner.

It's still the same. We both "work" and then cleaning comes after the kids go to bed. So it's not like I sit there and do no cleaning.

I clean more in general. I do pretty much 95% of the dishes. I do 100% of the vaccuming, all the laundry, and 75% of the picking up (he helps always the night before the cleaner comes). So because I stay at home I should do 100%? Sorry but cleaning is a household chore. You live in a house you have responsibilities. If you don't want it then hire someone.

It's not free pass just going to work. Doesn't work that way. Before we had kids and both worked we both had to clean. So it's no guff. The same division of labor. When we had dogs I also walked, feed, bathed, and groomed them. Pre and post kids.

So please don't say the cleaner is call the stay at home spouse. A stay at home spouse can and often does A LOT. I also pay all the bills, I literally fill gas in the car, I oversee all home, kid, etc stuff. I did this when the kids were small and I do it now as they are bigger and I work.

Most recently this tax season my DH said "I don't want you to work anymore. I don't like it. I'm tired, it's hard expecting me to do so much for the kids. You need to cut back. I can't do it." I admit he works hard and travels quite a bit now so I am cutting back to accomodate him. He only picked up and watched the kids when I worked. He certainly did not cook, he did not clean, he did not pick up.

So he doesn't expect it of me. A night working? I come back to the house a wreck, food out on the table, takeout, dishes, everything everywhere. I even often will buy or prep food, lay out clothes, do all dishes before leaving him to a dinner with the kids. I have a list of homework to accomplish. So I come home this season at 10 pm and still do dishes and pick up and I prep lunches for the kids and myself? Sorry no go.

If he can be super dad and pick up, clean, bath kids, brush teeth, read books, homework, toys, cook, etc then he can expect me to do everything. But it's not possible. Something's gotta give and for us it's always been housework.

DS here's a thing we also considered. We save a lot of money cooking and we like to cook at home. We pay for a house cleaner because we spend more time cooking meals than cleaning our house. I know many people who don't cook as much and instead clean. It's a trade off.

[Gailete]

This is exactly what my opinion is/had been every time my wife had asked about getting a housecleaner in the past. It was only when her medical issues became a factor that the (declining) state of the house was creating more stress than already existed that I caved & told her to go ahead with it. I'm still not 100% on board, but as I said, it is nice to magically have a clean house when I come home from work. However, the couple times that I've been home while someone was cleaning the house, I was stressing out like crazy & neurotically trying to clean up anything that I could... It works much better when I'm not there, and I can ignore the facts of how it got that clean. The decision of hiring a cleaner was 100% for my wife's benefit. I can only barely tolerate the idea of someone cleaning up after me...

Very much how I felt as well, but at times you have to face facts and our society no longer pitches in to help the people they know when someone is ill. It was killing me to try to keep up with the cleaning.

[Gailete]

Years ago, I finally hit a wall and realized with my RA getting worse there were things I just couldn't do anymore. One of the hardest was washing dishes. So, we investigated the few local services, and not a single one would agree to doing dishes, the one thing I really needed help with! We finally were supposed to have someone come and they didn't show up and eventually the boss of the company called and said she had hurt her back and wasn't going to be able to work for a while. Since we had a morning appointment I did wonder why I only heard that she wouldn't be coming during the time she was supposed to be there, since she apparently had already been checked over by the doctor. I think the price then was $25/hour with a minimum of 3 hours.

So, after remembering a book I had read once that had mentioned some tips on hiring cleaning help, so that when I took our car into the garage that was owned by some Mennonite men, I asked the receptionist if any of the women did cleaning. She said she would let me know. Her sister was willing and she with her mom came to talk with me about my requirements. Mom wasn't willing to let the daughter (18) work at a home that they didn't approve of, and we passed that test. I explained what I needed help with and why and that unless there was a big miracle, I would need help the rest of my life. Our family got 'adopted'. That young lady cleaned and then brought another woman on board to carry on when she couldn't do the cleaning anymore (she also taught in their school full time), she cleaned for about a year and you have never had a really cleaner until you hear a woman whistling songs of faith while scrubbing a bathroom floor on her hands and knees (I did not require hands and knees scrubbing!), then she brought in her sister who has now been cleaning for us for I think 4 years. She is the right age to be my daughter, she has 6 kids, and is faithful to come every two weeks for 2 hours for $40. Always does the dishes first. The first year I could barely get her to talk, and then as time went buy we always chit chat and she knows I need that as much as I need the cleaning since I am stuck in the house so much especially during winter. She knows that financially we don't have a lot, but I share any surplus with her. I get things from doing reviews that I end up not being able to use or I get too much of, and I pass on to her or to her community. Her family is not wealthy, and they grow most of their food, but during the summer months she ends up with excess eggs and brings us a dozen brown eggs about once a month. We have become friends, Other than her doing the dishes, she does the lick and a promise kind of cleaning in the other hour except with the bathrooms. I can only afford so much cleaning.

With a cleaning person, you must be willing to get the clutter out of the way for them since they aren't going to know where to put things. My lady said we needed cleaner and I got her two bottles, one for upstairs and one for downstairs and told her she could put them where she would know where they are. I trust her and all my treasures in the house, although she usually won't come if no one is at home. She also will not come if only my husband is at home. She has never stated those things, but I caught on quick. We have become friends and she was one of the first that I told that I was going to be a grandma! She was very happy for me.

Incidentally, in the book I read, they mentioned that some people to check for cleaning help are Jehovah's Witnesses. Because of their beliefs, apparently, they would rather poke their eye out than steal or gossip about what they see in your house. In my case I have found some wonderful worker's in the Mennonite ladies. I’ve only hired one of them, and they pass their care of me on to another when they can no longer do it. How many employees find their own replacements? And their church comes and sings Christmas Carols at our house each year which is special.

Don't forget I am in a LCOL area and my lady lives down the road from me. What normal cleaning ladies charge in this area is beyond me.

[kork13]

I, on the other hand, am just weird about people coming in and cleaning my house. Most people dream of not having to clean - I wouldn't dream of it haha, even if I had the spare cash.

This is exactly what my opinion is/had been every time my wife had asked about getting a housecleaner in the past. It was only when her medical issues became a factor that the (declining) state of the house was creating more stress than already existed that I caved & told her to go ahead with it. I'm still not 100% on board, but as I said, it is nice to magically have a clean house when I come home from work. However, the couple times that I've been home while someone was cleaning the house, I was stressing out like crazy & neurotically trying to clean up anything that I could... It works much better when I'm not there, and I can ignore the facts of how it got that clean. The decision of hiring a cleaner was 100% for my wife's benefit. I can only barely tolerate the idea of someone cleaning up after me...

[rennigade]

You already have a cleaning person...its your stay at home wife.

I fail to see how someone struggles to vacuum, wipe down floors/shower/mirrors/vanity and dust. That makes up 95% of cleaning a home.

The problem most people have when it comes to cleaning is they think they need to do it all at the same time. Instead of vacuuming one day, cleaning bathroom another day, etc etc...they think they need to cram it all in at once. Never ends well.

[amastewa93]

As with most things, you'd have to do some math to see if hiring someone would actually be worth the money. That being said, I know a few people who have hired maids and have been extremely happy with the outcome. If it is something you truly don't enjoy doing (or suck at, like you said), sometimes it is worth the money.

I, on the other hand, am just weird about people coming in and cleaning my house. Most people dream of not having to clean - I wouldn't dream of it haha, even if I had the spare cash.

[disneysteve]

while I am not fluent in Spanish

Having someone who speaks fluent English would be a non-negotiable condition if we hire someone. I don't care what race or ethnicity or nationality they are but they must speak English. I'm not inviting someone into our home who I can't communicate with.

Thanks for the responses so far.

[msomnipotent]

I hired a service once, when my RA was really bad for a while. I used a groupon instead of hiring a person, and was not pleased with the outcome. I specifically asked to have certain things done that I could not do myself, like clean the grates to the air vents and dust the light fixtures. I paid extra for it, which I was fine with. They only did half of the things I asked and only wiped things instead of cleaned them. I specifically asked the owner if they were only going to wipe things or scrub them clean (like the floors), and of course she said scrub and they wiped. She offered to send them back to re-clean, but I don't see the point in wasting time to come back and do another sub-par job. And I let her know that while I am not fluent in Spanish, I know enough to know what they were saying about me. All this for the low, low discounted price of $325. Once people see our subdivision, the price always doubles.

I thought it was wise to hire an actual company that was known and insured since I have antiques and other things in the house. My sister hires a mother and son team that are not insured and she loves them. They never stole or broke anything, and they clean well. I am thinking of hiring someone again and just locking the valuables in a spare room and tell them not to clean it. I'm overwhelmed with the dog's problems and now my daughter's mouth. Now the surgeon is saying that she has the wrong appliance in her mouth and the tooth will not come down correctly, and the orthodontist is saying she needs another surgery and the appliance is fine. She is scheduled for another surgery in a couple weeks. I am not pleased with anyone in my town at the moment.

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[Thrif-t]

Nope because I don't think there is anyone out there that could clean to my standards

If I hired someone to clean I'd want them to deep clean which to me means SPRING CLEAN; wash my walls, baseboards, drapes, blinds.. things of that nature. Doing that kills me more than regular vacuuming, mopping, cleaning bathrooms. Plus I have 3 kids, everyone has a job, there are no free rides in this house, so it's not bad.