Do you hate your career?

[Singuy]

It's called the golden handcuffs. Contentedly miserable.

I'm not sure if links are permitted, but if so, here is a good explanation:

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20130...in-your-career

Sigh, only in first worlds where one will have the time to be "miserable" from "boredom". Maybe this is the result of you guys making too much money and living too comfortablely in which you have the spare time to be bored.

I rather sit in a cubicle all day under a climate controlled room dealing with a crappy boss than swiping the streets in India for 14 hours/day, making 1 dollar/day and living in a shack made of straws..trying to raise 3 kids.


You guys really need to travel the world and start living in other people's shoes for once before crying about how "miserable" your life is here. Americans already won the birth lottery..and yet there are so many cry babies here.

[disneysteve]

I rather sit in a cubicle all day under a climate controlled room dealing with a crappy boss than swiping the streets in India for 14 hours/day, making 1 dollar/day and living in a shack made of straws..trying to raise 3 kids.

I don't think anyone here is disagreeing with you on this point. Certainly, pretty much everyone in the US is better off than lots of folks in third world countries.

I'm not sure what that has to do with this conversation, though. Are you saying you shouldn't be dissatisfied with a bad job? You have no right to be bored at work? You should just suck it up and deal with incompetent management or being poorly treated?

[TexasHusker]

Sigh, only in first worlds where one will have the time to be "miserable" from "boredom". Maybe this is the result of you guys making too much money and living too comfortablely in which you have the spare time to be bored.

I rather sit in a cubicle all day under a climate controlled room dealing with a crappy boss than swiping the streets in India for 14 hours/day, making 1 dollar/day and living in a shack made of straws..trying to raise 3 kids.


You guys really need to travel the world and start living in other people's shoes for once before crying about how "miserable" your life is here. Americans already won the birth lottery..and yet there are so many cry babies here.

The only thing I in India I might get really disgusted by is being the resident toilet genie.

[Singuy]

I'm not sure what that has to do with this conversation, though. Are you saying you shouldn't be dissatisfied with a bad job? You have no right to be bored at work? You should just suck it up and deal with incompetent management or being poorly treated?

I am just saying people are over-blowing the problem by saying how it reduces your life expectancy and it's the worst thing ever on earth. You have no idea how worked up some of my co-workers get from having a "bad" day at work. I have never had a bad day at work in my life because I am always grateful to be alive in the U.S, making the money that I make.

I do the same work or 1.5x of that of my co-workers..except I do manage to be stress free and probably live longer since I have a very very high tolerance for annoyance. I have lived in third world countries and just simply can't get enough of the green grass here.

You have the right to feel however you want..but I also have the right to stare at you and wonder..wtf is your problem? Especially those who makes over 6 figures. You make more in 1 year than someone in the third world in a lifetime..just let that sink in while you complain about your life.

[disneysteve]

I am just saying people are over-blowing the problem by saying how it reduces your life expectancy

I agree with you that most people don't appreciate how good they have it.

That said, stressing over bad working conditions certainly can contribute to health issues and even reduced life expectancy.

I think many people tend to have a victim mentality, though, and blame all of their problems on everyone else rather than taking control of their own situation. If your job sucks, get a new one. Or at the very least, sit down and talk to your superiors to address the issues.

[DaveInPgh]

Singuy

You are blowing this topic way out of proportion. No one is saying that their sucky job is the worst thing ever or that they are not grateful for it not being as bad as others have it.

Being thankful I have a job and not living in deplorable conditions doesn't change the fact that my boss is a total asshat.

Also, leaving a bad job/career isn't a simple move. Or perhaps even the right move!

I have never thought of myself as a victim when it comes to my employment situation. It is just the way things have worked out thus far. A detail I didn't include regarding the career path I was promised is that it came from a discussion I had with my then boss as I was unemployed. Why was I unemployed? Because I accepted a job offer from a competitor and I hated it so much I resigned without waiting to find something else. I pursued the grass is greener and the situation I got into was nothing like it was presented when I accepted the offer. So I quit and reached out to my old boss here at my current company. He didn't want me to leave in the first place so he was more than happy to have me back. However, it wasn't that simple for me, despite being unemployed. I wanted more money and a career path. I got the money I was asking for, which is a sad joke about this company in itself, but the career path has never materialized.

However, the fact that jumping ship didn't work out for me before is not the main reason I stay. I stay because it is in the best interest of my family.

[disneysteve]

I stay because it is in the best interest of my family.

I think this is true for a great many people. They do what they need to do to pay the bills and put food on the table.

The problem is the people who go on and on complaining about their jobs and do absolutely nothing to seek out something better.

[DaveInPgh]

I think this is true for a great many people. They do what they need to do to pay the bills and put food on the table.

The problem is the people who go on and on complaining about their jobs and do absolutely nothing to seek out something better.

I totally get that it is annoying to hear someone constantly complain about their job. It is very rare for me to "take it home" with me. When I walk out the door each day, I breathe a sigh of relief and focus my attention on family matters.

Typically if my dissatisfaction with my employment is not pertinent to a topic, I keep it to myself for a couple or reasons.

1. Dwelling on it is also unhealthy
2. I don't need to be told it could be worse. Knowing it could be worse is never going to make this job any better. It still sucks.

[Singuy]

I empathize - I was in the same boat for years - getting paid $220K a year for about one hour of work per week. Not fun. Had I stayed, I'm convinced i wouldn't have lived to see 60.

It's the quote above that got me going...convinced that the job will shorten life expectancy even with the following parameters:

1. Working 1 hour a week
2. making 220k/ year
3. Most likely not doing something morally compromising like selling your body or assassinating people.

Life must be totally unlivable...

This quote gets the ultimate eyeroll from me.

[GoodSteward]

It's the quote above that got me going...convinced that the job will shorten life expectancy even with the following parameters:

1. Working 1 hour a week
2. making 220k/ year
3. Most likely not doing something morally compromising like selling your body or assassinating people.

Life must be totally unlivable...

This quote gets the ultimate eyeroll from me.

That isn't even a first world problem, it's a 1%er problem. 99% of the people out there wont' have a clue how to even relate to this "problem" hahaha

[phantom]

That isn't even a first world problem, it's a 1%er problem. 99% of the people out there wont' have a clue how to even relate to this "problem" hahaha

I disagree with the idea that you need to be making a lot of money to be able to relate. I briefly had a job where I had 0-10 hours of work/week. I was making more money than I'd ever made before, but no where near 220k/year. All that time sitting at a desk with absolutely nothing to drove me crazy. It might have been more tolerable if my desk wasn't situated where people could constantly see what I was doing and there wasn't pressure to always look busy. But, I couldn't stand being stuck in a position where I was wasting most of my day doing nothing other than "earning" a paycheck.

As far as bad job situations go, it was by no means the worst position I could have been in. I've definitely been in worse. But, having a job with nothing to do was much worse than I ever imagined it could be. I'm really glad I was in a situation where it wasn't hard to leave and find something I liked better.

[DaveInPgh]

I disagree with the idea that you need to be making a lot of money to be able to relate. I briefly had a job where I had 0-10 hours of work/week. I was making more money than I'd ever made before, but no where near 220k/year. All that time sitting at a desk with absolutely nothing to drove me crazy. It might have been more tolerable if my desk wasn't situated where people could constantly see what I was doing and there wasn't pressure to always look busy. But, I couldn't stand being stuck in a position where I was wasting most of my day doing nothing other than "earning" a paycheck.

As far as bad job situations go, it was by no means the worst position I could have been in. I've definitely been in worse. But, having a job with nothing to do was much worse than I ever imagined it could be. I'm really glad I was in a situation where it wasn't hard to leave and find something I liked better.

Thank you. Someone else that gets it.

It has absolutely nothing to do with the amount of money being earned. When you are stuck at a desk with nothing to do, it drives you insane if you don't find something to occupy your mind.

[bjl584]

I don't hate my job. Sometimes I get bored and feel as if I've hit a wall however. I have recently starting sending out resumes here and there just to see if I get a nibble.

[Singuy]

Thank you. Someone else that gets it.

It has absolutely nothing to do with the amount of money being earned. When you are stuck at a desk with nothing to do, it drives you insane if you don't find something to occupy your mind.

I have about 2-3 hours of work a day..hence that's why I am always on this forum.

From my spare time, I have learned photography, history, politics, investing, and religion. Youtube is your friend.

Perhaps you should find something to occupy your life besides work..or lack of work. Just tune the world out.

Oh I know, since you hate your job so much.
Start thinking up a business plan or a plan to have a better job. That will occupy you for days on end.

[disneysteve]

From my spare time, I have learned photography, history, politics, investing, and religion. Youtube is your friend.

Not everyone has that freedom at work. When I'm at my office, I can use the internet freely, and I do, which is why I'm on the forum so much.

At my new job, however, I'm not sure what the official rules are but I'm not taking any chances. I will go on and check my email but that's about it. If I want to do anything else, I'll use my phone and stay off of their network. But even then, there are 3 of us sitting there together so it would be pretty awkward for me to plug in headphones and be watching YouTube videos when I'm supposed to be working.