Getting help for my mom

[emanon1501]

I know this is not the right forum, but I am hoping someone can point me in the right directions or give advice.

Short story, my mom lives in Florida and she is married to the most horrible men I ever meet. My mom is showing some signs of problems with marriage and her mental issues. She is 66, but she is in bad health right now. Who can I contact to get her help and determine what kind of help. She only gets 600 a month from SS and have Medicare and Medicaid. Her husband brought in a girlfriend to live in the house and it is driving my mom crazy.

I live in Texas, what could I do to help her out? I don't want her to move in with my family because I am raising three kids who don't need to see someone with sever bipolar and mild schizophrenia. She raised me and I did not have great child hood, but I cannot just turn my back on her. I don't make enough to support her and I think FL has better services for senior than TX, right?

Please provide any suggestions or idea on what I should do to protect her from her husband of over 10 years.

Thanks

[FLA]

You could start with referring her to Adult Protective Services, in NY they do not have the legal teeth to do much, I don't know about Florida. If she is alert, oriented and competent to say she is fine, there's not much they can do.

Has she seen her doctor lately? Maybe she has a skilled nursing need which would allow a service like VNA to come in for a short time, the doctor will know if she meets their criteria. The big one is you must be homebound, so if she's out and about, she won't qualify for that.

Having Medicaid and Medicare are good, she likely qualifies for low income housing. She would need to go to the Dept of Social Services and meet with someone who can help her make these decisions. If she is not capable of doing stuff like this alone, is there a friend down there who could help walk her through this stuff? In NY, we have a Nursing Home Without Walls program that gives an occasional nurse visit but is generous with aide time, she may be too young or not have a qualifying condition.

It seems to depend on what she is able to do for herself, who can help her if not, but if she cannot manage any of that, I think she needs a competent adult to help her. Is her husband dangerous?

just a thought, I can totally get why you would not choose this option, but could she live in low income housing in TX? Maybe near enough that you can drive out for emergencies, not so close she'll expect to eat dinner with you guys.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this, so many more layers than you're average aging parents.

[emanon1501]

Thank you for the information. I will give them a call. I just hope Florida is very good at helping those who have Medicaid.