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I am 62 years old and and I retired to Tennessee to live when I was forced to go on a disability pension from the railroad 20 years ago. I had to have both of my hips replaced at age 41 and the railroad wouldn’t let me continue working and helped me get on a disability pension. For the last four years I have been helping my 28 year old adult son financially. He is physically disabled and can’t keep a job because of his disabilities. He currently lives in Ohio with his brother and sister-in-law and I send $300 a month to pay for his rent there.
My 28 year old son has been chronically homeless for the last four years and he can’t keep a job because of his disabilties. He has no health insurance but he has been diagnosed with a herniated disc in his spine and he has also been told that he needs to have hip replacement surgery because he has bone rubbing against bone.
I am currently in the process of helping him apply for SSI and Medicaid as his advocate because he can’t properly understand how to fill out the SSI forms himself. In the third grade he was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD and had special classes all the way through graduating high school in 2001.
Because of his physical disabilities with his spine and hip he has been unable to keep a job. Every employer that hires him eventually notices him wicing in pain from his hernieated disc and the pain in one of his hips, and then they let him go with the excuse that “because of your disabilty you may become a liability to us”.
Paying $300 a month for his rent and sending money occasionally for a bus pass and cell phone and personal grooming items (soap, shampoo etc.) cost me and additional $100 a month. He does need the bus pass and cell phone in order to look for a job, but he can’t ever keep one because of his disabilities. Paying $400 a month is becoming a strain on me financially because I am on a fixed income.
My wife and my son’s step-mother says that I should cut him off financially and this is causing a strain on our 18 year old marriage. In the last three weeks he has attempted suicide twice by trying to overdose on ibuprofen which takes for pain relief. He says he hates his life and he feels hopeless because of his disabilties and his chronic homelessness and his inability to support himself.
The first time he took 100 ibuprofen and had his stomach pumped. On the fourth of July he took 150 ibuprofen and was taken to the hospital again. I am afraid he is going to keep trying to commit suicide until one day he succeeds. At the same time all of this going on with him (his disabilities, the sucicide attempts and paying his rent and sendig more money monthly for his necessities is draining me mentally and financially, not to mention putting a strain on my marriage.
My wife and his step-mother will not allow him to live with us. I am at my wits end on what else I can do to help him become self sufficient and get his medical problems taken care of. Hopefully the SSI and Medicaid will go through. If he is denied SSI I will get an attorney for him and try to appeal that decision. If anyone has any suggestions for me on how to help him please respond.
He will not live in a homeless shelter he has tried that several times and says he prefers to sleep on the streets insted of the homeless shelters. For now he is off the streets living with his brother and I pay his rent to stay there. Any helpful comments would be greatly appreciated. I don’t know what else to do for him. I am 62 years old and I won’t be around forever to help him. I don’t want to get a phone call that he was finally sucessfull and committed suicide, that would crush me.
My 28 year old son has been chronically homeless for the last four years and he can’t keep a job because of his disabilties. He has no health insurance but he has been diagnosed with a herniated disc in his spine and he has also been told that he needs to have hip replacement surgery because he has bone rubbing against bone.
I am currently in the process of helping him apply for SSI and Medicaid as his advocate because he can’t properly understand how to fill out the SSI forms himself. In the third grade he was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD and had special classes all the way through graduating high school in 2001.
Because of his physical disabilities with his spine and hip he has been unable to keep a job. Every employer that hires him eventually notices him wicing in pain from his hernieated disc and the pain in one of his hips, and then they let him go with the excuse that “because of your disabilty you may become a liability to us”.
Paying $300 a month for his rent and sending money occasionally for a bus pass and cell phone and personal grooming items (soap, shampoo etc.) cost me and additional $100 a month. He does need the bus pass and cell phone in order to look for a job, but he can’t ever keep one because of his disabilities. Paying $400 a month is becoming a strain on me financially because I am on a fixed income.
My wife and my son’s step-mother says that I should cut him off financially and this is causing a strain on our 18 year old marriage. In the last three weeks he has attempted suicide twice by trying to overdose on ibuprofen which takes for pain relief. He says he hates his life and he feels hopeless because of his disabilties and his chronic homelessness and his inability to support himself.
The first time he took 100 ibuprofen and had his stomach pumped. On the fourth of July he took 150 ibuprofen and was taken to the hospital again. I am afraid he is going to keep trying to commit suicide until one day he succeeds. At the same time all of this going on with him (his disabilities, the sucicide attempts and paying his rent and sendig more money monthly for his necessities is draining me mentally and financially, not to mention putting a strain on my marriage.
My wife and his step-mother will not allow him to live with us. I am at my wits end on what else I can do to help him become self sufficient and get his medical problems taken care of. Hopefully the SSI and Medicaid will go through. If he is denied SSI I will get an attorney for him and try to appeal that decision. If anyone has any suggestions for me on how to help him please respond.
He will not live in a homeless shelter he has tried that several times and says he prefers to sleep on the streets insted of the homeless shelters. For now he is off the streets living with his brother and I pay his rent to stay there. Any helpful comments would be greatly appreciated. I don’t know what else to do for him. I am 62 years old and I won’t be around forever to help him. I don’t want to get a phone call that he was finally sucessfull and committed suicide, that would crush me.