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  • #16
    Originally posted by gackle View Post
    Finally, read Baby Wise if you haven't yet. It eliminates the frustration of not understanding why your baby is crying by putting them on a schedule. It also talks about the importance of having your baby learn how to fall asleep on their own without the help of parental rocking or sleep aides. Sorry for the unsolicited advice, but this is savingadvice.com and the book was soo helpful to us that I can't help recommending it to new parents.

    I didn't care for this book at all, but it all depends on your parenting style. I'm more of a Dr. Sears kinda gal myself (cosleeping, breastfeeding, babywearing clothdiapering). It's personal preference. I know if it was my baby coming home after all this time you'd have to pry that baby out of my arms! Good luck and have a nice 'last night.' Of course it's the beginning of something wonderful for you too.

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    • #17
      Congrats on bringing one home!

      My social life is similar except minus the former heavy drinking..and not so family friendly events accompanying it..which is prolly a good thing . That and more friends come here rather than meeting out..that way I can put my kids to sleep and continue to have fun, when you are out your kid is often up (as a toddler and older). Which you will pay for in the morning.

      As to what to do with a kid free night..sleep and before the sleep..enjoy the kid free bedroom. last chance for not having to lock the door (or using the living room/kitchen, whatever), and not having a baby monitor or one ear open for the possible interruption. That would be my plan if I had a kid free night.

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      • #18
        Cook up some meals to have in the freezer.

        Buy some healthy, easy-to-grab foods to have on hand.

        Clean the whole house top to bottom.

        Sleep.

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        • #19
          Comedy club?

          But I really think it is important to have time together...talking and communicating expectations or desires for the next several days or months. I think whatever you do, you should get away from the house...you may not get out as often as you think...so enjoy!!
          My other blog is Your Organized Friend.

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          • #20
            Go to a nice restaurant and to a movie. That's relaxing, and you definitely can't go to a movie theater with two infants.

            Our social life didn't change that much at first. We could even go to parties and the baby would just sleep through all the noise. It's when they're older and can't sleep anywhere any more that you start having to stick to the house at bedtime/naptime etc.

            Good luck! I'm so excited for you. I hope DS2 is close behind his brother and that all four of you will be home together soon.

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            • #21
              Congrats, hope you are rested up and have a good set of ear plugs.LOL.

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              • #22
                What gets removed? Privacy

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                • #23
                  I'd vote for dancing or a movie. And if you don't have Tivo or a DVR on your TV, get it ASAP! It's so much more relaxing to be able to pause and rewind when the baby interrupts a key moment in the show you're watching.

                  Take advantage of bringing the kids when eating out for the first 3-6 months -- seriously! At this age you can leave them in the car carrier while you eat. They'll either sleep, drink a bottle, or mom can nurse at the table (there's a great product called a "Hooter Hider" that's way easier than a blanket over the shoulder.) From 6-12 months restaurants are harder but still workable as they sit in a high chair and you can keep them distracted with babyfood and toys. Once they get to be about 18 months, restaurants become much more difficult, and you'll find your self playing tag team just to get a bite in. (With twins it may be completely impossible to eat out!)

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                  • #24
                    A nice dinner (someplace you don't see kids) and a movie sounds nice. Or my husband and I love to go to the symphony or jazz concert. If you want to do something, try dinner and putt putt golf or even bowling. Enjoy your time before kids!!! Whatever you decide, take your time when you are out. Once the kids come home, I find that when we go out we are usually checking the clock a lot because we want to be home around the time we gave our babysitter and to avoid a huge babysitting bill.

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                    • #25
                      going on a date with your wife is great because we rarely get a chance to spend this time. If i had ONE night than dance the whole night and drink more 'n more beers which make these kind of moments memorable. At last when my legs hang over we would sleep for a hour!

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                      • #26
                        I think for the first few months you will be doing a lot of dating at home. Make those dates special. Whatever you do, don't forget that the foundation of your home is based on the relationship of you and your wife. Your boys will look to you to see how to treat women, so date, date, date! Woo her, because she is going to be tired and may feel not-so-[insert pretty, fabulous, sexy, etc.] sometimes, and she needs to know how wonderful she is.

                        Okay, so this may not happen to you, but it was my experience and DH stepped-up to the plate and knocked it out of the park. I will forever sing his praises

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                        • #27
                          So - give us the G-rated version - what did you guys do?

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                          • #28
                            Is he home? Hope they both continue to do well!

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                            • #29
                              We went over to a friends house and had a bonfire, came home, then picked up DS#1 the next day.

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                              • #30
                                That sounded lovely! And probably wasn't too expensive either.

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