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This is a very touchy topic and includes so many other issues. I can't say what I would do in any given situation, only the situation in which I find myself. I know I have planned and prepared myself to earn a decent wage, and found a husband with the same prepardness. I have made sure there were no accidents over the past thirty+ years (okay only the last fifteen really count). And educated myself well in various birth-control methods.
Now I can only speak for myself and what I would do, but if I was financially strapped, and felt I should have another child. There would be a long discussion between my husband and I and then we would make it a matter of prayer. If we both felt it was the 'right' thing to do, even if the numbers didn't work out as nicely as I'd like, that would not stop me. I'd have the baby. At some point, if wait until you have the money (as you see it) you would never have a child. But once you are pregagnant and the baby is here you find a way to make it work.
As for the cost of the baby...that's a joke and a lie. There was an articel in the tighwad gazette that explained that myth and the numbers she came up with, sorry can't remember them, were much more manageable.
I too however, am not for just having children for the sake of having children or trying to get more money from the system. To me a child is a heck of a lot more work than what the 'system' is willing to shell out. I don't think it's the government's responsiblity to pay for child after child and that doing so is not right. A child should be loved and wanted and charished...not a means of getting support.
I feel being a parent is a self-less act. As one of my friends put it, 'I felt like I lost a bit of myself when I had my daughter.' She said that because she was never that same person again. Her life turned from what she wanted to what her daughter needed. Her life, and any parent's life, is never the same again. If you aren't willing to sacrfifice and put your childs needs in front of your own, then just don't have children. I think there was a poster that basically said this. I personally don't understand it, but I respect their choice and wisdom in understanding who they are and knowing that having a child was not the right choice for them.
Also, I understand how 'accidents' can happen. However, I also STRONGLY know that most if not all 'accidents' can be prevented. This is mostly a matter of education, availble health care, and self-control.....all three of which are sorely lacking in many aspects of society.
What it boils down to is that each person must make this choice for themselves and decided where they stand on the issue. It's also an opinion that will in all likelyhood be greatly influence by your own upbringing, religion, family and your life. What you feel now, may not be what you feel ten years from now either.
Now I can only speak for myself and what I would do, but if I was financially strapped, and felt I should have another child. There would be a long discussion between my husband and I and then we would make it a matter of prayer. If we both felt it was the 'right' thing to do, even if the numbers didn't work out as nicely as I'd like, that would not stop me. I'd have the baby. At some point, if wait until you have the money (as you see it) you would never have a child. But once you are pregagnant and the baby is here you find a way to make it work.
As for the cost of the baby...that's a joke and a lie. There was an articel in the tighwad gazette that explained that myth and the numbers she came up with, sorry can't remember them, were much more manageable.
I too however, am not for just having children for the sake of having children or trying to get more money from the system. To me a child is a heck of a lot more work than what the 'system' is willing to shell out. I don't think it's the government's responsiblity to pay for child after child and that doing so is not right. A child should be loved and wanted and charished...not a means of getting support.
I feel being a parent is a self-less act. As one of my friends put it, 'I felt like I lost a bit of myself when I had my daughter.' She said that because she was never that same person again. Her life turned from what she wanted to what her daughter needed. Her life, and any parent's life, is never the same again. If you aren't willing to sacrfifice and put your childs needs in front of your own, then just don't have children. I think there was a poster that basically said this. I personally don't understand it, but I respect their choice and wisdom in understanding who they are and knowing that having a child was not the right choice for them.
Also, I understand how 'accidents' can happen. However, I also STRONGLY know that most if not all 'accidents' can be prevented. This is mostly a matter of education, availble health care, and self-control.....all three of which are sorely lacking in many aspects of society.
What it boils down to is that each person must make this choice for themselves and decided where they stand on the issue. It's also an opinion that will in all likelyhood be greatly influence by your own upbringing, religion, family and your life. What you feel now, may not be what you feel ten years from now either.
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