Re: Career change - would you do it?
Yeap, worried about her too. She comes from a very frugal family, she has actually been the one to instil some frugal behaviour in me. However, she is also used to total financial security (her parents are completely financially independent, having enough investment income to cover living expenses many times over). They did this by having high income and being absolutely frugal. Pleasure in life is not very high....what carries weight with them is having large sums invested.
She has always felt very financially secure from her family's position and combined with my income and her savings let us to feel, in hindsight, very upper middle class.
I do not have certainty as to how she will react long-term to feeling more financially constrained. Plus, she would have to move to a city she doesn't much like, away from family and friends (albeit just 2 hours drive away) and forfeit the seniority she has gained in her job over the last five years (she would maintain her income).
We love each other very much, but this is a lot to ask of her. We have talked about this ever since we have been together (over five years) as I have always contemplated this change and talked about it. However, now it is real. She knows how I feel, knows I am not happy in what I do and knows my interest for the other line of work. So far, she has been very supportive and encouraging. I do feel, however, that she is quite scared.
If I go through with this, the plan would be for me to get an apartment for 6 months or so and if all goes well, we would look for a house and she would join me.
I do not know the long term effects of this. I may enjoy what I do much more, be more present and our quality of live would significantly increase. It may also bring in issues of dissatisfaction into our relationship.
Should I have to choose between work and her, she would win. I would return and try to come back to this lifestyle prior to letting things get really bad. However, like switching back jobs, I don't think one can easily switch back relationships should things go sour for a significant period.
So, yeah, one more worry.
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Originally posted by PrincessPerky
She has always felt very financially secure from her family's position and combined with my income and her savings let us to feel, in hindsight, very upper middle class.
I do not have certainty as to how she will react long-term to feeling more financially constrained. Plus, she would have to move to a city she doesn't much like, away from family and friends (albeit just 2 hours drive away) and forfeit the seniority she has gained in her job over the last five years (she would maintain her income).
We love each other very much, but this is a lot to ask of her. We have talked about this ever since we have been together (over five years) as I have always contemplated this change and talked about it. However, now it is real. She knows how I feel, knows I am not happy in what I do and knows my interest for the other line of work. So far, she has been very supportive and encouraging. I do feel, however, that she is quite scared.
If I go through with this, the plan would be for me to get an apartment for 6 months or so and if all goes well, we would look for a house and she would join me.
I do not know the long term effects of this. I may enjoy what I do much more, be more present and our quality of live would significantly increase. It may also bring in issues of dissatisfaction into our relationship.
Should I have to choose between work and her, she would win. I would return and try to come back to this lifestyle prior to letting things get really bad. However, like switching back jobs, I don't think one can easily switch back relationships should things go sour for a significant period.
So, yeah, one more worry.
Isn't the anonymity of the internet great :-)
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