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[Harry00]

Haven't been here for awhile. Got a little cocky and thought I had things under control. ......until yesterday. Got the mail and there were bills, bills, bills. Feel like I'm never gonna make it. Could use some words of encouragement.

Thanks

[bjl584]

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Hang in there! Sounds like you may have lost your focus a bit. Just stick to a plan and keep at it. Things will come together for you.

[LuxLiving]

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Have hope.

Never fear.

We're here for you.

There, there.

You can do it!

You can handle this!

Don't quit.

Keep playing!

Steady on, ol' bean!

It's always darkest before the dawn.


There you go, words of encouragement! from...

~~LuxLivingFrugalis

P.S. You'll have to excuse me I'm feeling rather tongue in cheek this morning! You know you are back in the right spot. Focus, plan, execute, corrections -- you know the drill! Welcome back!

[rduell]

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Welcome back! I'm new here, but have found this place to be a wealth of info and support.

[boefixepa]

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Stay the course, this isn't a yo-yo diet...it's a way of life.

[Ima saver]

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That is true, you have got to stick to a frugal life style. After a while, it gets to be fun!

[PRICEPLUS]

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We have nothing to fear but fear itself!
F.D.R.



Welcome back! Remember that you can and will achieve financial freedom if you have the courage to do so! We are all here to cheer you on and provide support!!

[Harry00]

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Okay, I keep coming back and reading this quote. This IS my problem.
This has always been my problem.

A fantasy becomes a dissatisfaction. A dissatisfaction becomes a desire. A desire becomes a want. A want becomes a need. A need becomes a matter of life and death. --Concept taken from "My Year Without Spending"

[tinapbeana]

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Okay, I keep coming back and reading this quote. This IS my problem.
This has always been my problem.

A fantasy becomes a dissatisfaction. A dissatisfaction becomes a desire. A desire becomes a want. A want becomes a need. A need becomes a matter of life and death. --Concept taken from "My Year Without Spending"

maybe the key is to re-route your fantasies?

[Harry00]

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When you say re-route, do you mean "change?" I mean totally change, cuz I'd love to.

[creditcardfree]

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What change did you need to make that you didn't? Tell us more. I'm curious!

[Harry00]

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I just wanted to be "somebody". I suffer from shizophrenia and lost a lot of years, I mean a lot of years. I wanted "stuff" so I could be somebody. Anybody. Being sick and being in the hospital really sucks.

[creditcardfree]

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Thank you for sharing. You are somebody, with or without stuff. I wish you the best of health and healing both physically and financially. We're here to help. Just ask.

[LuxLiving]

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Hey Harry. Thanks for sharing your story. Creditcardfree is right, you are a very important somebody!! Can you clarify more of the stuff you think you'd like to have?

Are you living alone now? with family?

Working? Looking for work?

School? Or been there done that?

Vehicle? Don't require one?

Folks here would be happy to help you with some pointers for acquiring stuff, it will be helpful if we kind of know where you are now and where you'd like to be. Look forward to chatting with you more!

[tinapbeana]

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I just wanted to be "somebody". I suffer from shizophrenia and lost a lot of years, I mean a lot of years. I wanted "stuff" so I could be somebody. Anybody. Being sick and being in the hospital really sucks.

wow, harry, sounds like you've done a great job becoming somebody already. schizophrenia can be dibilitating, and the fact that you're not hospitalized now speaks volumes.

i went through the same kind of thing, wanting to be 'somebody', but i just didn't know what. i kept a notebook and started writing down a number list of of things I wanted in my life. It looked kind of like this:
"I want to..."

1. be the kind of person who drinks hot tea
2. snuggle each cat i own individually
3. always have money in a savings account
4. cook three meals at home per week
5. read a book a week
6. buy a home before i turn thirty

my list was over 100 items long, and most of them turned out to have nothing to do with stuff. they were things that i wanted to do, or felt bad for not doing, or even things that i thought might shape the type of person i was or could be. granted, drinking hot tea every day didn't change me as a person *grin*, but the 10 minutes of relaxation it gives me actually made a big difference.

i still haven't finished the list, and sometimes i add and remove things as i change as a person, but for me this has 're-routed' my fantasies away from stuff and towards myself and who i want to be.