My family

[peterj]

No family is perfect right? i tend to think people agree with that statement.

I was not the nicest kid growing up, i was spoilt, use to swear and hell and my parents in my teens and was very disrespectful. I however always had a job and supported myself, i just had a bad temper.

I cant seem to get over it. My parents said that i was a horrible kid and said every swear word you can imagine, and these are my parents! I feel disgusted. I am now 24, nearly finished my degree, have around 25 grand saved and will move out next year.

I feel like i am not normal and i wish i this did not happen, what is a way forward for myself?

[GREENBACK]

Ever considered talking to a professional counselor? The way you describe things sounds like there are issues to be resolved. Who's normal? We all have, have had, and will have various issues to deal with our entire lives. Many of these things can be related to childhood. As an adult you must now deal with it without assigning blame to anyone else.

The past is just that. How you handle your future is all that matters now. Your situation isn't nearly as dysfunctional and abnormal as you might think.

[scotland]

The fact that you realise you have been disrespectful in the past is good. It means you are maturing. Your parents have done a lot for you and they always will (because they are your parents). You are young and have a lot to look forward to. Try to give something back in return.

[KiwiJo09]

It's hard to be in that middle stage. That's where I am now. You'll be moving out soon. And it's okay that you were a bad kid. I was horrible, myself. As long as you realize it and attempt to be a better person in the future, no one can say anything to bring you down. Just sit down and talk to your parents. Maybe they don't realize how bad they made you feel.

[swapnil]

No one is perfect but atleast we can make efforts to make ourselves better when we know and understand we were bad in past, I suggest you to keep up with your parents though you seem to be moving to other place, because they have did a lot good to you, always look at the bright side than at the darker side, because when you look at bright side you attract more brightness to your world, sit with your parents and have a talk to them about your future and your plans for future that will make them feel important for you and they will then welcome you everytime you go to have a chat with them, and be polite to them and invite their suggestions too. Let me clear this, you may invite suggestions from them, but whether to put those into use or not depends on you, so atleast better try to invite them to your world if not possible to work on their suggestion its ok but let them feel that they are being heard by their Son, and who knows you may get respect and important place in their life, the thing that you have been missing all these years you have grown up

[DorindaD]

I can relate to your post.. My "real" mother and I have never got along, I didnt meet her til i was in my 20's.. and had no respect for her what so ever.. Well as we speak she is losing her fight with Cancer, and i have so many regrets. and no time to make up for the things i have said and done. Get yourself some help. and be the best you can be. make the most out of every moment you can.

[kartcoup]

The good thing is that you acknowledge the problem. I'm sure it will be easier for you to change and makeup to your parents for that behavior in your younger years. Everyone did mistakes but what much important is that you learn from your mistakes and try to correct them. You don't want the same thing happen to you when you have your own child or children.

[boefixepa]

One of the few pearls I have learned in life is this.

You spend a good part of your adult life "getting over" your childhood.

It sounds like you are hitting the age when you realize that you have things to get over...hey that's progress! Talk to people, trusted mature friends, my aunt is one of my favorite. A good counselor is also a great idea. Your parents will come around as they see positive change.

Another thing I have noticed is this, and I don't know why, but my family is harder for me to get along with and deal with then any other group. I think it is because there is so much history and bagged there? So take is slow and realize it will take years for a trusting mature relationship to develop. They also have to be willing to "forgive and forget" for things to change and improve as well, but the first mile will likely begin with you.

Good luck!!