Eh. Idk about deadbeat. He has good qualities. The way I look at it is like this: I had to hit a low point in my life (being in a completely unfamiliar city, no job, no money, no home, no friends, nothing) before I finally decided to pull myself together and do something with my life. Before that point I was content to be a waitress and bum around at friends houses and do nothing to better myself. I just think he hasn't hit that point. I'm trying to steer him toward the realization that he can't continue to rely on me for financial support, but I did put myself in this position when I said "yeah, sure, move in with me even though you can't pay bills!" So I'm accepting responsibility for our current arrangement. It's getting better though.
Another thing: he really was coddled. My mom booted me out when I was 17, and I had to figure it out. He never went through that. And maybe I'm keeping that from happening now, but we had a good weekend, and I think I'm going to try giving him an itemized list of everything he needs to pay. A coworker suggested holding him accountable for everything I pay for that isn't necessary (eating out, giving him money for anything,etc) sort of like treating it like a loan.
Anyway, the BF gave me $100 to go to the casino and I won $400! Which is over half of the rent, so my goal is to pay the majority of my bills with my check this week, put in some extra OT and set $300 back from my next check for the rent next month $200 for groceries and whatnot, and use the rest to pay down my CC balance.
Another thing: he really was coddled. My mom booted me out when I was 17, and I had to figure it out. He never went through that. And maybe I'm keeping that from happening now, but we had a good weekend, and I think I'm going to try giving him an itemized list of everything he needs to pay. A coworker suggested holding him accountable for everything I pay for that isn't necessary (eating out, giving him money for anything,etc) sort of like treating it like a loan.
Anyway, the BF gave me $100 to go to the casino and I won $400! Which is over half of the rent, so my goal is to pay the majority of my bills with my check this week, put in some extra OT and set $300 back from my next check for the rent next month $200 for groceries and whatnot, and use the rest to pay down my CC balance.
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