Re: Need advice, Mother in law, wow
FFW,
Your situation just sounds too much like my family.
Hate to give more advice, but the easiest way to deal with this may be to actually lay it out, spread sheet or type up a list, or whatever. It is harder to argue with "buts" and excuses when it's laid out clearly. Then whatever she says, whatever reasons, it still gets back to that line item sitting there. What does SHE want to do about it, how can YOU help with this problem, but without giving her the options of you footing the bill.
To the argument she can do what she wants with her money, been there. Again, lay it out if you can, how soon will she be broke and what is she going to do? You have the RIGHT to do what YOU WANT with your money, and you and DH come first. She may not like it, but it is so much harder to rationalize things when they are laid out on paper as cold hard unemotional facts.
Also, of course, let DH take the lead, and make sure she knows that HE is putting his foot down, not that it's you and somehow she can go behind your back or manipulate him.
Hope that helps.
FFW,
Your situation just sounds too much like my family.
Hate to give more advice, but the easiest way to deal with this may be to actually lay it out, spread sheet or type up a list, or whatever. It is harder to argue with "buts" and excuses when it's laid out clearly. Then whatever she says, whatever reasons, it still gets back to that line item sitting there. What does SHE want to do about it, how can YOU help with this problem, but without giving her the options of you footing the bill.
To the argument she can do what she wants with her money, been there. Again, lay it out if you can, how soon will she be broke and what is she going to do? You have the RIGHT to do what YOU WANT with your money, and you and DH come first. She may not like it, but it is so much harder to rationalize things when they are laid out on paper as cold hard unemotional facts.
Also, of course, let DH take the lead, and make sure she knows that HE is putting his foot down, not that it's you and somehow she can go behind your back or manipulate him.
Hope that helps.
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