Pesky neighbours, co-workers may actually cost you

[Ima saver]

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Oh cicy, he makes sure he leaves when our entree comes, so he gets no bill.

[rob62521]

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So true Rob62521,
The worst kind is when FAMILY does this to you!!
Someone in my family bought her way to a wedding( paid for flowers or something/ loaned money). She then monopolized so many things. Fed up , the bride told her , in tears, to get lost!
Sad thing is that some people dont listen when you tell them subtly, and cannot take it if you tell them the truth.

So true!

[cicy33]

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Oh cicy, he makes sure he leaves when our entree comes, so he gets no bill.

He sounds like a total jerk. When he orders the coffee tell the waitress then that he is on his own check. in front of him! I know that it is only a dollar but to just assume somone is going to pay your bill is rude.

[Amorphous02]

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My colleagues and I went on a roadtrp, where they expected me to pay for coffee etc and I said to the waitress: "Here's my share. Have a nice day!" I have no problem spending on friends sometimes, but I HATE MOOCHERS.
My colleagues never tried any tricks with me again. Nearly cost me $4.00!

[Ima saver]

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Well he always leaves when the food comes. I guess I should tell the waitress in advance to give him his own check. Why should I pay $1.50 for coffee when we never order anything to drink.?

[cicy33]

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Exactly! When you place the order or when he does, just say this is two seperate checks. The only problem with that will be if you are worried about offending him. and frankly he has no business being offended. it is HIS coffee!

[Ima saver]

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That is what I will do!! I just wish he did not come into the restaurant so often!!

[rob62521]

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That is what I will do!! I just wish he did not come into the restaurant so often!!

If I remember right, you don't have a lot of restaurants to choose from, right? Or do you go there on just certain days? Too bad there isn't a way to avoid this moocher!

[Ima saver]

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We only have a few places that we like. When we try to go to another one, he finds us anyway. (Our cars stand out in the parking lot) He pretty much shows up any night, so that doesn't help. I would buy his coffee if he would take it and just go away!!

[rob62521]

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Somehow, Ima, I don't think he will just go away. Maybe we should send this pest from our church to come and visit with him and they could then leave us both alone!

[mountainmist]

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You are just too nice. I lived next door to a pest of a neighbor and I just told him stright out, "I am busy, an you are annoying me" Ima, just tell the jerk to get lost! Unless for some reason you need her/his goodwill then just tell them to go away. Don't hint, don't be subtle.

Why do people think they need to be polite to someone who is being inconsiderate or rude?

I had a man, a complete stranger walk up to me on the street and comment on my smoking, I said "That is one of the rudest comments I can imagine, do I comment on your personal habits? The way you dress, or your weight? What gives you the right to say something like that to a total stranger?" He apologized and left me alone.

Life is to short to mess with these bozos. Sometimes if you work with them you have no choice but otherwise...

I agree with you completely.

Again & again & again I am absolutely appalled by how eggregriously outright RUDE that so many adults essentially are.

I have a feeling there is something really wrong with modern culture that so many adults are so obviously desparately needy & clingy & dependent that they have to be AVOIDED by others...

I don't remember there being so many of this 'TYPE' decades ago, nowadays they seem to be everywhere, like there's a virus of emotional dependency that's stricken half the population into regressive infantile narcissism.

I'm becoming less & less of a "people person" all the time.

And I don't understand when/how/where sheer gossiping seems to have become a norm, maybe it's something on TV....

[Ima saver]

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I honestly don't think this man knows that it is rude to intrude on someone when they are having dinner. He doesn't know better.

[Elgin526]

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Ima, can you order your meals to-go? Just call the restaurant and order, and go and pick up the food to eat at home. DH and I do take out from our fav chinese place about once a month. Not because we are avoiding people (thank God we don't know any pests!) but because it's far away from where we live, but it's on my way home from work and it's easier to swing by and do take out then to drive all the way home and then go back out again. Even if you do run into Mr. Pest while picking up your food, it's easy to say "Sorry, gotta run, food's getting cold!" and make a hasty retreat!

[budgetmom]

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Ok I will have to admit that some of these stories point out freeloaders. But it seems to me that some are just very lonely or some are trying to be your friend and don't really have great people skills. In, some of these cases, although annoying, consider it a form of flattery. I remember a neighbor who would always come over and ask for sugar or peanut butter, anything! I got really annoyed by it. She would come over for hours on end and my DH and I had no time to spend allone with eachother. She was a poor single girl and she was new to the area. I talked to her about it. I told her it made me feel uncomfortable and she told me that she was sorry and that she just was trying to make friends with me. I told her that if she wanted to be my friend that she should not take it for granted that it was ok to ask for stuff all the time and just assume that it would be ok to take things, however insignifigant they may seem to her. I told her that although I thoght she was a nice person, I couldn't spend all of my time with her, I have a family and other friends too. I offered her ideas to meet new people in the area. I spoke with her as an adult about it, I did not act angry , but with compasion and consern for her and her well being. It worked. She still came over every once and awile, but she stopped staying over for forever. She started meeting new people too. She has since moved away from the immediate area, but she still pops in every once and awhile just to say hi. I can handkle that much better. All and all, I think that it is important to set personal boundries with people. Let them know when things upset you and if you are bothered by them. Being direct is key, but do it nicely (no matter how much you want to be mean, and there have been plenty of times I've felt like being mean!) I have found that it works much better than avoidance.

[Amorphous02]

I was hoping that someone could help me with a terrible neighbor.
She is nosy, rude and uncouth.

Her children always play rough with my kid.
I cut off all interaction with her.
I blocked her e-mail.
I have changed my place of worship to avoid her.
She found out that if she greets me in public, I won't tell her to back off... she take advantage of it.
How do I tell her to just leave me alone?
She refuses to take a hint and I dont want an ugly scene.
I am tired of her family's rude, unclassy behavior.
Some of my friends from NY tell me that I need to remain silent so that I do have someone nearby to help me in case of emergency.

Did you ever deal with someone who looked on as her kids hurt yours?

Please advise.