Mixing business with pleasure is a term that’s used to describe business partners who are romantically involved with each other. Mixing business with pleasure usually involves dating a fellow professional, especially one you work closely with. This would include people in your department or in a department you’re associated with.
We’ll be looking at the major reasons why mixing business with pleasure is such a bad thing and the unique cases where they can actually work. First, we’ll consider the downsides:
It’s bad for business.
The primary reason why you shouldn’t date someone you work with is that it’s bad for business. It’s simply too distracting. You’ll never be able to get any work done because you’ll be too busy doting over each other. This is especially true if your relationship is new or you’re really in love with each other. This lack of focus can reduce productivity, and even slow down the entire business’ operations.
Besides derailing the vision of the organization, dating your co-worker can also encourage the behavior, especially if you’re in a position of authority. You essentially endorse the act and give your employees or subordinates the right to do the same. Once this happens, it’s only a matter of time before all the emotional heat snowballs into an avalanche of chaos (and probably lawsuits).
It’s bad for pleasure.
As counterintuitive as it may sound, mixing business with pleasure is also bad for pleasure. Dating your co-worker means you always take a piece of work home with you. Even if you have a good working relationship, you’ll have to set new ground rules for when you’re not in the office. It’s going to be even harder trying to keep the two of them (relationship life and professional life) separate because the office demands strict and professional relations while life at home demands more compassionate relations.
You can see that this topic can lead to some major problems, both for the organization and the individuals involved. But then, now, we’re going to look at the situations where mixing business with pleasure might actually work out.
You have high emotional intelligence.
Having high emotional intelligence means being able to keep a lid on your feelings, no matter how strongly you feel at the moment. With high emotional intelligence, you can compartmentalize your emotions and keep them from interfering with your work. That way, you can avoid all the pitfalls that come with dating a co-worker.
You work from home.
Working from home is great because you can set your own hours and make as much money as you want. It all depends on how much time and energy you put into it. It also means you can date your co-worker, or work with your partner (depends on how you want to look at it.) For example, imagine that you trade on Bitcoin future, and your partner could also be in the same business. It wouldn’t matter much since there isn’t that much professional interaction involved.
The job is a temporary assignment.
If you’re both working on a very temporary arrangement, then mixing business with pleasure may not be such a dangerous thing. Since you’ll both stop working together soon, it’s unlikely that your relationship is going to affect your work and vice versa.
More often than not, it’s better to put off dating until after you’ve completed your business because it’s very rare to keep romantic affairs from spilling into work relationships.
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