niece doing bankruptcy and I'm disgusted

[KellyJef]

My 32-year old niece who has two kids lives with the father of the kids. Since the "authorities" don't know he is living in the house, she is eligible for all kinds of public assistance. She only works part-time in daycare because she doesn't want to work full-time.

She told us yesterday that she is doing a bankruptcy because she "has too many bills and bankruptcy is not a big deal".

I'm disgusted because her 42-year old boyfriend (I'm mentioning their ages to show that these are not young, naive kids who simply made some bad mistakes) makes very good money but chooses to spend it on himself. I'm also disgusted because she bought all new furniture, a ton of new clothes and a refrigerator within the last few months and is excited that she won't have to pay for any of it now.

Geez.

[isthisused]

Well you just made me feel better about some of my family whos financial situations make my skin crawl. Do you try to tell her why this is so wrong or just cringe in silence?

[GREENBACK]

I know it's family but I'd have to report that.

[wincrasher]

Well, people think bankruptcy is no big deal because there was easy credit afterwards.

Those days are over and she'll learn that too.

[mommyof4]

She may have to give the fridge back, if she financed it.

[whitestripe]

i say let her learn. she thinks it's going to be easy? yeah well...!
my mum went into bankruptcy (her ex ran up several credit cards, store cards and a telephone bill then left her with three kids and bills to pay) and i tell you, 10 years after its hard for her to do anything. every single financial form asks at some point or other 'have you ever been in bankruptcy?'. so i say, don't bother stressing, don't bother reporting, don't even other being disgusted, she's going to have one hell of a hard time when it's all over.

[rizzmo]

It sounds like your niece is trying to scam the system. I don't agree with it, and if she gets caught she will most likely not have the debt discharged.

Whitestripe I wonder if your mothers credit problems post bankruptcy are a result of too little income, or not paying current bills on time. I am about 4 years out of bankruptcy and have had a credit card for 3 years, purchased a new car 3 years ago, just purchased my first house (albeit with 20% down) in October , and have just secured some business lines of credit. It might be different in Austrailia, but the only type of credit I have been denied is a Bestbuy store card (one of the issuers I filed on).

[Goldy1]

This kind of stuff makes me sick too. I mean, you can't just keep filing bankruptcy so I hope she enjoys her "goodies" now.

[Lori63]

Originally Posted by GREENBACK

I know it's family but I'd have to report that.

My father's girlfriend and her two kids by him were getting welfare/other assistance because welfare didn't know he was living with them. I believe it was one of his grown children who turned them in (not me, I knew about it after). What laziness, lack of morals, etc.

[KellyJef]

Originally Posted by GREENBACK

I know it's family but I'd have to report that.

Actually, a more distant family member said that he did, in fact, report her (anonymously, of course) situation to Social Services well over a year ago but nothing ever came of it.

[GREENBACK]

Originally Posted by KellyJef

Actually, a more distant family member said that he did, in fact, report her (anonymously, of course) situation to Social Services well over a year ago but nothing ever came of it.

Social Services: Yet another overwhelmed, ineffective, unreliable gov't disaster. Way too many situations like the one you spoke of to comment on. But wait; The Obama Administration is providing more funding that should ensure that they continue the excellent job they are doing....yeah!!!

[Uneventoast]

I hope your sister hasn't sought legal assistance yet because if she has and that is the advice she has been given she may have a malpractice claim for bad legal advice. If she files a 13, she is still going to make payments on the items she still owes on. If she files a 7 then she may be looking to lose some of those items that she recently "purchased".

[whitestripe]

Originally Posted by rizzmo

It sounds like your niece is trying to scam the system. I don't agree with it, and if she gets caught she will most likely not have the debt discharged.

Whitestripe I wonder if your mothers credit problems post bankruptcy are a result of too little income, or not paying current bills on time. I am about 4 years out of bankruptcy and have had a credit card for 3 years, purchased a new car 3 years ago, just purchased my first house (albeit with 20% down) in October , and have just secured some business lines of credit. It might be different in Austrailia, but the only type of credit I have been denied is a Bestbuy store card (one of the issuers I filed on).

she doesnt have a credit card, hardly had any bills and they were all paid on time anyway (i think she had a water bill, and a gas bill). she was never denied anything, but always had to have extra documentationt to support everything.
so i would say that no, its not a result of little income or not paying bills on time, more to do with her banruptcy.

[pikey412]

I deal with these kind of family situations be minding my own business. It really isn't any of your concern.

[creditcardfree]

I'm disgusted about it, too. Maybe it should be reported to the police, since it is a criminal action. Not sure...

[m3racer]

This thread should be merged with the "government handouts" thread.

[m3racer]

Originally Posted by GREENBACK

Social Services: Yet another overwhelmed, ineffective, unreliable gov't disaster. Way too many situations like the one you spoke of to comment on. But wait; The Obama Administration is providing more funding that should ensure that they continue the excellent job they are doing....yeah!!!

Oh how I love our society.

[dardhel]

Originally Posted by pikey412

I deal with these kind of family situations be minding my own business. It really isn't any of your concern.

I would have to disagree. If you know for a fact that someone is scamming the government then it is our civic duty to get involved. I would rather my tax payer dollars go to programs that help individuals that are truly in need, not those that are lazy and have no integrity.

D

[reptile411]

It all comes back to them in the end. I had a family member that maxed out every line of credit in the world before moving to Costa Rica thinking hey I am leaving the country so who cares. Needless to say they were waiting at the airport on a return visit. The rest of the story is history. I personally don't agree that anyone should ever be in the position to file bankruptcy and if they are they put themselves there. I had a family member that did a few years ago and it was the worst thing in the world for them. They goto keep there house and a couple old cars but all the new fancy cars were ordered returned, they lost a lot as well as there perfect credit but that what happens when you get one card to pay off another and before you know it you have 80G in CC debt.

Originally Posted by KellyJef

My 32-year old niece who has two kids lives with the father of the kids. Since the "authorities" don't know he is living in the house, she is eligible for all kinds of public assistance. She only works part-time in daycare because she doesn't want to work full-time.

She told us yesterday that she is doing a bankruptcy because she "has too many bills and bankruptcy is not a big deal".

I'm disgusted because her 42-year old boyfriend (I'm mentioning their ages to show that these are not young, naive kids who simply made some bad mistakes) makes very good money but chooses to spend it on himself. I'm also disgusted because she bought all new furniture, a ton of new clothes and a refrigerator within the last few months and is excited that she won't have to pay for any of it now.

Geez.

[swaymonae]

Sounds like someone needs a reality check.. Does she know when she retires she's going to be even more poor then now and she's not going to have any money to eat?