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Originally Posted by Joan.of.the.Arch
I would love to hear this young man talk about himself as a child. I'd like to know more about what makes him tick. I grew up in poverty and while I think that is part of why I am creative, my creativity never extended to making money. Messages I learned from my childhood included:
-- There is really no one that is likely to hire me.
--No one has money to spend on the services I might provide.
--If it can go wrong, it will go wrong.
--People break promises.
--Good luck is not part of my lot in life.
--Don't take risks because life's necessities, being all I have, is what is at risk.
--The people who have money to spend live elsewhere and I don't know how make connections with them, or even where they live.
--No matter the good you do or how well you perform, you will not be appreciated or rewarded.
To this day I still have to fight that kind of thinking. The spirit was nearly crushed out of me. Thank goodness I did pick up other positive messages which have worked to my advantage. (For example, learning is great and formal education will help you succeed.)
Now, it surprises me to see how enterpreneurial my own kids can be, how comfortable they are with negotiating a deal or negotiating pay. They have had small a business before adulthood and have had to handle so many things--Things that even I have never done in 50 years of living. They never had to fear for their basic needs because their parents are able to provide quite sufficiently. I think that gave them a secure platform upon which to build confidence, optimism, and enterpreneurial forward thinking-ness (Is that a word?--No....)
We still live in a low income area. But I do see a few kids who are poor, but just have indominatable spirit and optimism. It astounds me. Usually their parents are the same, even if the parents never have really been able to pull themselves up.
I sure would like to know Farrah Grey. Don't you think he must be a really charismatic person?
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I very much agree with the above.. Something I have learned is that poverty and hardship either strengthens a person or weakens them. One thing is for certain being enterpreneurial comes with the territory because we have nothing to lose.. Whereas a person with wealth or perhaps status has alot to lose if things go wrong.
From my many many experiences in life I would definately say that Money comes to people regardless of their skills. Many times they are just in the right place at the right time.. (if you believe in God then you could say it is his blessings on that person) and if you don't then you can call it a bit of luck.
My husband grew up in East london born to an indian family. He was never that smart in school.. however because his school was the worst in London he became top in the whole school. Still to get into a good school such as Harvard/cambridge is very difficult. One day he went to cambridge university to ask for an application and the receptionist all of a sudden took a liking to this dark haired indian kid with a cockney accent. She said the guy who interviews is available at the moment and she could ask if he wanted to speak to my husband. My husband was shocked and at first he said no because he wansn't properly dressed.
The interviewer dr.. something or other came out and shook my husbands hand.. My husband said he wasn't ready for an interview.. and the guy said.. it will only take 5 minutes. He asked my husband the standard questions and afterwards my husband said, " I am not going to apply unless I know I will have a place at cambridge." The guy said "Apply" and winked his eye to my husband.
My husband was accepted into cambridge medical school. He became a tutor to the other students and was awarded for his public speaking abilities. He came from a good home in that his mother is a stickler. His accent is so sexy and posh now.. But thats not all..
As soon as he arrived to cambridge a fellow student knocked on his door. He was part of the Islamic society of cambridge and wanted to welcome my husband. Which is why we believe it was Gods will that my husband go to the university. Rather than finding material wealth .. he found a religion. He now has a full beard.. has memorized some of the quran and is practicing his faith.. with an open and educated mind. (although he looks like the taliban.. he is actually very tolerant and knowledgeable.. soft ectr. and does not believe in suicide bombings).
If my husband had never had this chance he would probably have been working in a fast food rest. serving hamburgers.. maybe become a manager.. married to a girl with 2 kids.. in an up and down terrace.
Now here is even a more interesting part of our story. My husbands mother worked all her life for British gas company as a receptionist/ ass. accountant. She was offered a redundancy and early retirement and paid her house off in cash. They moved to cambridge and prices started increasing rapidly.. then she moved to the north east and she is now a very rich women with a $420k house and an apartment in dubai paid off in cash. Not to mention giving me and my husband a start on life for our own home.
Now my husband has been working for almost 7 years now.. and we live in a 2 bed terrace which is smaller than an american 2 bed apartment. We live in a really rough area with second hand furniture and our car is breaking down. And although we are not big spenders we haven't been able to save a whole lot in that past years.
Is it fate?? Well its definately not from overspending! Rather more due to extenuating circumstances.
Me I am actually more clever than my lovely husband.. And when I was in school I only had to be shown a solution once to remember it years later. I can out talk any person in an argument and make you believe the sky is purple.. I came from an abusive family with no support for my studies. I married my first husband at a young age and he was abusive. (he was a millionaire.) I was left homeless.. with not a cent to my name.. and no matter how many times I applied for a job .. I never was hired. I was a mess... Yet I don't blame myself.. rather I blame my circumstances.. as I never had not even one person ( a teacher or anyone to support me)....
Rather I remember being hit by a teach with a book in the second grade (in an advanced class) and since then skipping school...
Am I a bad person.. No way! I'd never take a dime from another person. I always smile and I am happy with what God has given me..
conclusion:
Be happy with what god has given us.. and use what we have well. Now that I have a chance for a happy life with my husband I plan on going back to school and becoming a teacher.. I plan on saving every penny we can on making a better life. And making the most of what I have..
I am extremely happy and grateful that god has finally given me a supportive structure to make the most of my abilities.
And most of all when circumstances don't allow us to have the worldly possessions .. don't be worried.. Its a learning curve..an experience and a benefit to those who have never had the opportunity to struggle.
Now if I were a governer.. ectr.. I know exactly how to help people out.. and I would be strong enough not to kiss the ass of rich people.. cuz I have nothing to lose !!
A 'Reallionaire'...first million by age 14 and look where he's from!
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