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Originally Posted by Homebody
Please don't assume because people don't spend their money they are not happy. It would make me unhappy to spend just to spend.
Having said that, we are way more frugal than we used to be probably because our kids are grown and those expensive child rearing years are behind us.
PS I have a clarinet and a piano too!
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No, but how's this, Frugal is when you don't spend money and are happy with that decision and it doesn't affect OTHERS. Cheap is when you are frugal but it affects others to have to pay for you, or they are deprived.
Thus yes it might not make YOU unhappy but it makes everyone around you feel like running for cover. How's this going to eat at my in-laws house, for sure we go out to eat later and so does my BIL. And when friends are not invited over because that would mean DH would have to go out and buy more food and something for them to drink and napkins. I am the only person who drinks a glass of water with my meal at my in-laws. They are not bad people, but just CHEAP.
When they come to my house, I know DH feels comfortable offering any food or drink and we NEVER run out. At my in-laws they run out of FOOD. And yes I feel that is CHEAP. I am a bit overweight, could stand to lose 10 lbs I'm borderline BMI, but DH is a BMI of 18-19 and so is BIL. And they are always hungry when they go home. First thing we do when we visit is stop at the grocery store and buy some soda, juice, fruits, snacks, etc. That way they do not have to feed us, like I think they should.
Are they unhappy? Maybe not, but I think they make us unhappy, and if my parents treated DH like that I'd be embarrassed. But I don't say anything because I get how they are. They are so cheap that they often do things that embarrass us when we go out.
