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11-17-2006, 05:24 AM
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People Who Tell You What You "Should" Do
Are there people in your life who like to tell you what you "should" do? I have some relatives who like to point out things I "should" do to my home from lawn care, home improvements, maintenance, etc. Or, then there are the ones who tell you what you "should" do with your money, how to spend it, how your really need to buy thus and so, etc. Just my rant for today! Personally, I don't go into someone's home and tell them how to care for or improve their home. Nor, do I tell people how to spend their money. If I am asking for opinions, then fine, but most of the time this stuff just seems to come up in normal conversations. BTW, I do like my relatives!
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11-17-2006, 07:27 AM
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My mom keeps saying I should get a new car. I've got a 98 Toyota Camry that just turned 95K this AM. I have no intention of getting rid of it anytime soon. I plan to get 150K out of it if all goes well. So she's going to be bugging me for another 4 years.
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11-17-2006, 07:43 AM
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Then there is the ole "you haven't done this or that yet?" Sort of a backhanded way of pointing out what they think you should have done by now......
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11-17-2006, 07:55 AM
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"you mean you haven't started saving for retirement yet? wow, that's almost unheard of at your age!"
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11-17-2006, 07:55 AM
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My youngest 3 who are 8, 8 and 10. They keep telling me what we should buy. A lot of it is typical for the age, but I am bringing them on board to the facts of life by showing them the finances, bills and such. Hopefully they will grow up learning some people make decisions based on issues they may not be aware of. Of the oldest 2, now out on their own, one has always worked and been frugal. The other one, is experience "money shock" as we basically cut her apron strings so she can figure it out on her own. Amazes me how one can spend her last $100 on an ipod, then while she has no gas money.... We are just trying to keep our mouths shut, and maybe her lightbulb will go off.
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11-17-2006, 07:57 AM
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11-17-2006, 08:41 AM
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I have a set of relatives who are missionaries, very nice people, but very hellfire and brimstone particularly if someone new is visiting---I just ignore it!
I also have a counsin who is a real estate agent and sees every family gathering as an opportunity to harangue anyone who hasn't bought a house from her, I just tell her if she wants to pony up the money dh and I would be happy to sign on the dotted line, that usually shuts her up. Most people who like to give a lot of advice can be shut down if you wait an few extra seconds before responding (psychologically your lack of response puts them on edge) or if you constantly change the subject....all fair in love, war and at family gatherings
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11-17-2006, 09:36 AM
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Yes, there are a lot of people in my life that tell me what I should do. Whenever someone does, I look at their life. If someone tells me what I should do with my money, and they happen to have none or have huge amounts of debt, then it is best not to listen to their advice.
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11-17-2006, 09:51 AM
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It's one of my pet peeves, actually. I don't like it when people tell me what I "should" do with my life. I don't mind asking for and accepting help, but supervisor/life coach is not one of them!
This boy marchs to the beat of his own drummer, thankyouverymuch!
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11-17-2006, 10:34 AM
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My mother, wife, MIL, sisters, brothers friends, and et al. It seems like everyone knows how I should live my life.
 Pretty funny if you ask me! Well What can you do but nod and be polite and ignore any advice you choose to ignore. Sometimes advice is helpful and I'll use it. I just try to keep it all in perspective!
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11-17-2006, 04:41 PM
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All I hear is why we should have kids. Even after we explain :
a. we don't have enough money to have kids b. we are both away from home 12 hours most days c. we are just not interested they won't let it go. My husband says to tell everyone that we can't have kids and then they will feel bad for asking. He has even created a great story line for how he got "injured" in a fire.
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11-17-2006, 09:26 PM
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11-17-2006, 09:27 PM
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though honestly I am the one guilty...I see a situation, I figure out what I would do, then I tell DH later, no need to tell the owner..less I forget they are there and think out loud..that is generally bad...
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11-18-2006, 07:33 AM
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Um yes - MIL has a list a mile long of things we should do and everything we do wrong. It is SO frustrating.
I mean seriously, last time we were giving the kids a bath she told me I Was washing my son's hair all WRONG. LOL. IT is *that* bad. You just learn to tune her out and nod. & when she asks a question I just say "I don't know." It is the safest answer... I love her too, but she is crazy - LOL. Ah, it is amazing we can even survive we have done so many thing wrong - hehe. The funniest thing about MIL is she makes wild assumptions about everyone. Makes her advice even more annoying when she doesn't know what the hell our situation really is.
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11-18-2006, 07:42 AM
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We recently undertook surgical methods to make our decision permanent. I'm wondering when will be the right time to unleash that info on my mother.
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11-18-2006, 10:26 AM
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I get really mad when people make fun of how small my wedding was, saying that it was not a "real wedding"
Well, they are the ones getting divorced. Go figure.
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11-18-2006, 03:30 PM
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11-18-2006, 03:32 PM
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Nobody gives me advice! None of my friends can handle money.
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11-18-2006, 03:52 PM
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our wedding didn't cost as much as most in our state and i'm sure some of them looked down on it but we were happy. we planned, executed, and paid for our own wedding... not everybody can claim that.
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11-19-2006, 08:15 AM
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