Back Again

Harry00 · #1 (**permalink**) 10-20-2006, 03:45 AM

Haven't been here for awhile. Got a little cocky and thought I had things under control. ......until yesterday. Got the mail and there were bills, bills, bills. Feel like I'm never gonna make it. Could use some words of encouragement.

Thanks

bjl584 · #2 (**permalink**) 10-20-2006, 04:46 AM

Hang in there! Sounds like you may have lost your focus a bit. Just stick to a plan and keep at it. Things will come together for you.

LuxLiving · #3 (**permalink**) 10-20-2006, 06:01 AM

Have hope.

Never fear.

We're here for you.

There, there.

You can do it!

You can handle this!

Don't quit.

Keep playing!

Steady on, ol' bean!

It's always darkest before the dawn.

There you go, words of encouragement! from...

~~LuxLivingFrugalis

P.S. You'll have to excuse me I'm feeling rather tongue in cheek this morning! You know you are back in the right spot.

Focus, plan, execute, corrections -- you know the drill! Welcome back!

rduell · #4 (**permalink**) 10-20-2006, 06:47 AM

Welcome back! I'm new here, but have found this place to be a wealth of info and support.

boefixepa · #5 (**permalink**) 10-20-2006, 06:50 AM

Stay the course, this isn't a yo-yo diet...it's a way of life.

Ima saver · #6 (**permalink**) 10-20-2006, 07:43 AM

That is true, you have got to stick to a frugal life style. After a while, it gets to be fun!

PRICEPLUS · #7 (**permalink**) 10-20-2006, 01:15 PM

We have nothing to fear but fear itself!
F.D.R.

Welcome back! Remember that you can and will achieve financial freedom if you have the courage to do so! We are all here to cheer you on and provide support!!

Harry00 · #8 (**permalink**) 10-25-2006, 02:11 AM

Okay, I keep coming back and reading this quote. This IS my problem.
This has always been my problem.

A fantasy becomes a dissatisfaction. A dissatisfaction becomes a desire. A desire becomes a want. A want becomes a need. A need becomes a matter of life and death. --Concept taken from "My Year Without Spending"

tinapbeana · #9 (**permalink**) 10-25-2006, 04:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Harry00

Okay, I keep coming back and reading this quote. This IS my problem.
This has always been my problem.

A fantasy becomes a dissatisfaction. A dissatisfaction becomes a desire. A desire becomes a want. A want becomes a need. A need becomes a matter of life and death. --Concept taken from "My Year Without Spending"

maybe the key is to re-route your fantasies?

Harry00 · #10 (**permalink**) 10-25-2006, 04:29 AM

When you say re-route, do you mean "change?" I mean totally change, cuz I'd love to.

creditcardfree · #11 (**permalink**) 10-25-2006, 08:05 AM

What change did you need to make that you didn't? Tell us more. I'm curious!

Harry00 · #12 (**permalink**) 10-25-2006, 08:20 AM

I just wanted to be "somebody". I suffer from shizophrenia and lost a lot of years, I mean a lot of years. I wanted "stuff" so I could be somebody. Anybody. Being sick and being in the hospital really sucks.

creditcardfree · #13 (**permalink**) 10-25-2006, 09:04 AM

Thank you for sharing. You are somebody, with or without stuff. I wish you the best of health and healing both physically and financially. We're here to help. Just ask.

LuxLiving · #14 (**permalink**) 10-25-2006, 09:11 AM

Hey Harry. Thanks for sharing your story. Creditcardfree is right, you are a very important somebody!! Can you clarify more of the stuff you think you'd like to have?

Are you living alone now? with family?

Working? Looking for work?

School? Or been there done that?

Vehicle? Don't require one?

Folks here would be happy to help you with some pointers for acquiring stuff, it will be helpful if we kind of know where you are now and where you'd like to be. Look forward to chatting with you more!

tinapbeana · #15 (**permalink**) 10-25-2006, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Harry00

I just wanted to be "somebody". I suffer from shizophrenia and lost a lot of years, I mean a lot of years. I wanted "stuff" so I could be somebody. Anybody. Being sick and being in the hospital really sucks.

wow, harry, sounds like you've done a great job becoming somebody already. schizophrenia can be dibilitating, and the fact that you're not hospitalized now speaks volumes.

i went through the same kind of thing, wanting to be 'somebody', but i just didn't know what. i kept a notebook and started writing down a number list of of things I wanted in my life. It looked kind of like this:
"I want to..."

be the kind of person who drinks hot tea
snuggle each cat i own individually
always have money in a savings account
cook three meals at home per week
read a book a week
buy a home before i turn thirty

my list was over 100 items long, and most of them turned out to have nothing to do with stuff. they were things that i wanted to do, or felt bad for not doing, or even things that i thought might shape the type of person i was or could be. granted, drinking hot tea every day didn't change me as a person *grin*, but the 10 minutes of relaxation it gives me actually made a big difference.

i still haven't finished the list, and sometimes i add and remove things as i change as a person, but for me this has 're-routed' my fantasies away from stuff and towards myself and who i want to be.

JoyJoy · #16 (**permalink**) 10-31-2006, 08:03 AM

Chit happens. We were caught by surprise with a Columbus Day snowstorm here in Amherst, Ny. Many people have to rethink holiday plans now as there was much structural damage to homes here caused by the 22 inch snowstorm!

Harry, when you find someone or someplace that has it all together and never falls by the wayside, please come back and let me know!

You're a strong person by just admitting it. Hang in there. The darkest hour is just before dawn.....my mother always said.!!!