Feeling Poor

[boefixepa]

Way to go bookie!!

[shengmei]

I think everybody has different triggers of feeling poor.

I can live with furnitures and clothes from the dump, and I can pretty much do anything without feeling poor. I don't even own a car.

However, I have to have expensive cream on my face and expensive cat food on my shelf. When I run out of those things I feel very poor.

[Ima saver]

Bookie, that is kind of the way I feel. I don't spend money on much, but I have a lot of happiness. Just having my little puppy and my dh is all I will ever need. (that and being skinny enough to eat all the fudge i want) I am sorry you had such a hard time gruntina. I was poor as a kid, but always had a roof over my head.

[flash]

Emotions don't have to be tied to logic, and often aren't. If you have a feeling of self-worth or get a high out of buying, or have any other emotional need FILLED by purchasing things, then when you need that fix and don't get it, you will be miserable. In contrast, saving gives a different emotional reward.

Feeling poor, or deprived, or not as good, or lacking...figure out what the actual emotion you are feeling, and where it is coming from, can help you understand it.

An example -- some women feel like having a rich husband is their "goal" in life. Not buying some little thing if they are single, or husband isn't rich, remind them that they are inadequate compared to their goals.

If you ALSO have a goal of saving money, and seeing the savings rise, and having yourself invested in that, then you can also have positive feelings when you succeed.

Conflicts...usually.

[starving_student]

Originally Posted by getforfree

I feel poor when somebody else has something that I can't afford.

Once I visited my friend, she just came back from shopping and showed me what she bought. She spent over $200 on clothes just for herself. She bought shoes for $30, a shirt for $25, and some other stuff.
Excuse me, but I would never spend $30 for a pair of shoes! It has to be at least 75% off, brand name, and cost no more than $18. Again, this is the same friend that always complains that she doesn't have money. But she always gets a fancy haircut and stuff. Of cource she wouldn't have any money. When she showed me all the stuff she bought, I felt poor, but whenever she complains that she doesn't have any money, I feel rich.

I never paid less than 30$ for a pair of shoes (usually from Zappos brand name on sale at 40$)!!! How can you get away with 18$???? or even less?

[Cashguy]

Originally Posted by cschin4

Your feelings and emotions can change often. So, try to work your finances with a plan and purpose. Keeping that in mind will help you get through the times of not really feeling like saving, spending wisely, etc. There is bling, bling all around all of us so all the shiny toys do look great and like a lot of fun. But, there is a price to pay (literally and figuratively) for everything. And, the thrill of these things wears off long before the last payment is due!

+1. Having alot of material stuff does not mean that true content and happiness follows. Jusy stay the course.

[Ima saver]

I feel poor having so much money tied up in a house being built, and knowing that we have to spend a lot more to finish it. I miss earning that interest. I think I have talked dh into never building a house this expensive again.(It is a spec house, for sale)