stupid compromises

[LivingAlmostLarge]

I think I blew out my knee this weekend, I might have torn my ACL snowboarding. Geez, I've done stupid. But seriously I go snowboarding because my DH loves it. I personally think it's stupid, waste of money, and dumb. Did I mention I think it's a waste of money?

But he loves it. It's one of his favorite winter hobbies and he vowed this year to spend more time doing fun stuff in the winter. I hate the winter. I hate the cold period.

But I compromise and go snowboarding, though I suck at it, hate it, and all around complain about it. Anyway I just paid $60 to blow out my knee and potentially now undergo surgery.

Help me feel better and tell me stupid things you've done in your relationship. And yes I realize it's a compromise. We compromise in relationships doing stuff the other person loves for them. He goes to musicals, plays, opera, symphonies, etc for me. But granted he doesn't kill himself or injury himself like I do.

But I just can't believe I had to pay money to injury myself.

And I am trying not to whine to my DH about it because he does feel bad. But this means I no longer have to accompany him in March to Utah for snowboarding! YES!

[disneysteve]

Sorry to hear about your knee. My wife tore her ACL about 10 years ago. Surgery did great and she is 100% now but it still sucks to go through. Hope you don't have to.

[Broken Arrow]

Couldn't he snowboard on his own? I mean, you don't have to go with him do you?

I've done a lot of stupid things in my marriage. Unfortunately, not much of it was all that amusing, and most of you have probably already heard of it anyways.

So, it's all the same, I'll pass this time. But I'll come back and add if I do think of something amusing.

[Gruntina]

I gave up skiing for my husband. I miss it tons! We tandem bike together and we will start kayaking this summer. I never kayaked before so I am not sure how much I will enjoy it.

I been skiing since age 3 and am really good at it. It is the one thing I will wake up super early and do all day long. It was also a great workout and was I was very thin just from skiing alone. Nothing compares to skiing for me.

[jIM_Ohio]

My wife and I allow ourselves time to do the things we like apart. For example I am going camping memorial day weekend and she is staying in a hotel just outside the campground. I am planning a 2010 ski vacation and she won't be outside with me. On our honeymoon she went snorkeling and I stayed on the cruise ship and drank.

It's Ok to not do things together.

[disneysteve]

Originally Posted by jIM_Ohio

It's Ok to not do things together.

I've been happily married for over 16 years but this is still one we struggle with. Neither of us really feels comfortable doing anything major without the other. I'm not talking about little stuff like going to the mall or seeing a movie, but big stuff like taking a trip. I have gone away without my wife a few times, usually business related, and it just feels awkward being in a hotel by myself, eating meals alone, etc.

Perhaps it is a personality thing. Part of the reason we got married is because we like doing stuff together and didn't want to be alone. Even when I do a day trip by myself, like going down to the casino for a few hours, I don't feel right. Even though when we go to the casino together, we split up as soon as we get there, it is still different somehow because we are both involved in the activity and we are together for the ride there and back and when we eat.

Part of it is also probably related to the fact that neither of us really has any close friends that we hang out with. If I was going somewhere with a bunch of guy friends or she was going out with the girls, that might be different.

Ultimately, we pretty much share common interests. It is rare that one of us really wants to do something that the other doesn't want to do, or isn't at least willing to participate in. There are some vacation destinations that I'd like to see that she isn't so into, but I'd never think of going by myself and leaving her home.

[SnoopyCool]

I tried skateboarding for DH. Fell right on my butt, but no major injuries. Just sore and a nice size bruise (oh, and the neighbors had a good laugh). Now I know why they make padded shorts.

[LivingAlmostLarge]

LOL. Gruntina my DH is in the exact same boat as you. Skiing since childhood in Canada.

Jim, I am TOTALLY okay with him leaving me behind. I'd love it actually. He on the other hand feels weird, maybe because it's a super pricy hobby. He'd do other things without me, but not major stuff, much like steve. if only.

[PrincessPerky]

Sorry about your knee, I too gave up skiing, but I wasn't an avid skier, never could afford it.

Let's see what sort of goofy things have I done for him....tried once to watch a horror flick, it was bad. I made him fast forward,after like 10 minutes, to the end to prove it all ended ok.

[Russell]

I'm full of stupid hobbies I've had and still do.

I used to race cars, I used to blow money on buying the trick suspension, sticky wheels, tires, gutting the interior, putting in roll cages, paying for the track events, hotel stays, wear and tear, helmet etc. Just the track events and hotels would cost me around $600 each weekend and I used to do 8-10 events a year.

I then stopped cold turkey, I had withdrawls but somehow managed to stay away, I then spent most of my free time (or not so free time) working on cars, it was theraputic for me. I then became addicted to the latest and greatest tools and started buying a lot of tools. Including a shop style car lift, welders etc.

Latest is motorcycles, never ridden one but just passed the test and got my license as well as on old bike. Which sounds innocent enough until you start adding up all the safety riding gear etc and not to mention the inherent danger...yeah I'm stupid alright.

BUT, I never went broke doing any of the above, I always did it with the money set aside...I don't regret it at all - not the wisest way to spend but hey I'm entitled to spend some money on things that give me the pleasure.